my 5 year old will be starting school for the first time this fall and i'm really scared for her. she is my oldest and i'm so worried about other children being mean to her or her being mean. and what do i need to know before I send her?
2006-06-07 15:21:33 · 12 answers · asked by s.dennison123 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I worried about this too, but there is really nothing we can do. As she gets older you can start teaching her about not becoming a bully and how to treat others. As far as her being a victim of bullying, there's not much you can do. Just teach her to speak out and stand up for herself. Communicate with her teacher regularly, and volunteer with her class ocasionally. I did that, and it becomes apparant pretty quickly who the bullies are, and most of the other kids don't put up with them. Hopefully you will have a teacher who can teach kids about how we act and how we treat each other, I was fortunate in that. Eventually your daughter will run into someone who is mean to her, my daughter went almost the whole school year before a kid decided to try out bullying my daughter. As soon as we found out we talked to the teacher, for now this has resolved the issue with this one kid, who was mostly showing off for another kid in the class and my daughter just happened to be a handy target. Try not to worry too much, and while it's good to ask your daughter about how her school days go, don't grill her about things like who is mean to who, it will only make her worry about it too.
2006-06-08 11:28:57 · answer #1 · answered by nimo22 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My daughter (my oldest also) just finished kindergarten last week - I felt the same way you did last year. The first day of school I thought I was going to vomit I was so nervous for her. I keep thinking what if she has to go to the bathroom and doesn't tell anyone, or she was going to get on the wrong bus coming home. She did great!! I think it helped her a little bit knowing some of the other kids in our neighborhood - they all rode the bus together and she was fine. All the other kids in kindergarten are just as nervous. After a couple of days she will probably start talking about the friends she is making - try and get their phone numbers and have playdates with them on the weekend. Believe me - you will be more anxious and nervous over this than she will. Good luck!
2006-06-07 15:28:19 · answer #2 · answered by hotmomma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't want to scare you even more but i will make this suggestion because i am having all kinds of problems now with my oldest son of 7.
take her to school and pick her up if you are able. my son gets harassed/physically abused all the time on the bus by the older students. i am going through a situation right now and i just can't get help from the school district.
but over all the students in the classroom get along. he loves school just hates getting there and i have started barrowing the neighbors car to take him to school. good luck
2006-06-07 17:39:39 · answer #3 · answered by evrythnnxs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids are mean. I have one starting Kindergarten and one that will graduate 12th grade next year and kids in between. Kids are not nice. I visited my kids school often and got to know there Friends. I volunteered in the class room and at lunch and recess. I also ran a girl scout troop after school. The more involved you are the better off you kid will be. I noticed that the mean kids were less likely to be mean to my kids because they knew I would be there.
2006-06-07 17:03:52 · answer #4 · answered by Julie M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always keep the lines of comunication open. Go day by day, and ask her how her day went. Maybe she will love it. Also, if you can afford it, send her to Karate. Mine are currently in Karate. Kindergarten was not so bad, the kids were mild. Its when they get older that we had to worry.
2006-06-07 15:28:15 · answer #5 · answered by blah blah blah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to build her self esteem so that she can be strong. Let her know that you will be there if she needs you but you have to start to let her grow and be a little independent. There will be bumps along the road, but don't make her fearful or too clingy. She can handle it, Mom.
2006-06-07 15:26:12 · answer #6 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her be. Every child needs to get a scraped knee and you will not always be there when she gets hurt. She will make mistakes and all you can do is talk to her about it and lead her in the right direction.
2006-06-07 15:25:18 · answer #7 · answered by Loo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive had two already in school and my baby girl starts school this year if you are concerned drop by the school
2006-06-08 01:50:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children are evil train her well enough to fight back when sum 1 hits her!!!
2006-06-07 15:30:30 · answer #9 · answered by Chink E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kids can tell if you are affraid for her to go and she will use this to get what she wants dont be scared she will have fun playing and making new friends
2006-06-08 04:01:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋