i asked this a while ago but no one is really answering... so yeah ill just ask again
i went out w/ him and we didn't touch once! then he asked me to go on another date w/ him on saturday and i would really like it if he held my hand or hugged me or something... we really clicked and we have talked on the phone for 2 hours one day so yeah i want him to hold my hand or hug me but idk how to get him to do it! im scared to do it myself even though i know he would let me... and i kinda want him to do it first. is there any way i could get him to hold my hand or hug me without telling him that he can or me doing it first? please help! (im 14 and so is he)
2006-06-07 14:53:03 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Boys at 14 years of age are still somewhat shy about doing things like that, sweetie. Girls at 14 are much more mature than boys are at 14, 15 and sometimes even 16. You know he likes you and it sounds like he does, so all you can do is let him do that on his own time. I'm sure he really wants to, but he is still a bit shy to actually "touch" a girl, know what I mean? Once he feels more comfortable with you, he will probably do it so just keep reminding yourself of how nice it really will be once he is able to muster up his courage and hold your hand/hug you. Don't force him or pressure him or he will get scared and back off. It's sweet actually and it shows he respects you for it. Hang tight and good luck!
2006-06-07 14:57:27 · answer #1 · answered by portjeff143 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's alright for you to do it first, but don't be too straighout agressive about it. Maybe he thinks that you don't want him to do it or too afriad. On you place I would just casualy touch his hand or shoulder while showing him something so he understands that physical contact is OK. Say that you know how to read a destiny on the palm of his hand, for example (if you really can) it is just something fun to keep the conversation but that also has a hidden meaning.
2006-06-07 22:00:05 · answer #2 · answered by KiskaKiska 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, classic fist date scenario. [this is my personal opinion] He's probably testing the waters with you, just to see how fast he should take the relationship. You should probably stay close to him if you're walking or something, that will hopefully tell him that you want to hold his hand or put his arm around you. If the guy likes you [which he probably does] he will do something of the sort.
Hope for the best and good luck!
2006-06-07 22:00:18 · answer #3 · answered by J Bail 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do something where you can sit close to him or something active. Brush hands or something with him, or touch his arm or something..and im he'll he'll get the hint. From the sounds of it he probably feels the same way but might be scared to make the first move, so make sure he know that it is ok for him to do so
2006-06-07 21:57:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm no expert, but here's what i belive would work. Go to one of your houses, sit on a couch with him and watch a movie or tv or something, as long as it dosn't look suspicious to be sitting on a couch. Then, slowly move your hand toward him while keeping it on the sofa. Try to keep your palm down, as to not appear desprite. If things work out, let me know. If they don't, I'll try to find better advice.
2006-06-07 21:59:36 · answer #5 · answered by Jay Vee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awwwwww, sweet, but girl don't push it....... holding hands is normal so just kinda lay your hand on the arm of his chair or just kinda bump your hand into his...... He might be just as shy as you are about the hand holding and thinking the same thing you are... maybe he wants YOU to hold his hand first, so you wont think he is a grabbing jerk or pushy guy ??? thought of that ?? take it slow tho....... you have plenty of time to hold hands and to hug........... stay sweet.......... God bless
2006-06-07 21:59:07 · answer #6 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl trust me guys arent gonna do it first. If he isnt doing anything than you should make the first move. Guys arent gonna notice trust me. And i bet he'll like you even more if you have the courage to do that.
2006-06-07 21:58:15 · answer #7 · answered by . 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush! When the time is right it will happen. You've got plenty of time.
2006-06-07 21:57:01 · answer #8 · answered by waney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't rush things maybe his not ready yet...this things come in a right time that means he respects you.....i know teenagers now a days are too fast and aggressive but please find yourself some dignity you might loose it and you'll regret it
2006-06-07 21:59:52 · answer #9 · answered by darlds 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋