Well i dated my bf for one year and i love him alot but before him i dated this 36 year old when i was 18 who is now 39 and we met up about three months ago randomly at the mall and we went out for dinner, the feelings i had for him then resurfaced and i started going out with him behind my bf's back and just last night my ex (the 39 year old) asked to marry me and i said yes i love him and there is something about him that my current bf could never have. How should i tell him that it's over? I know no matterhow i put it i'm the bad guy but In life, situations occur that we hate to deal with. do you think he came back into my life for a reason, or too test my loyality to my bf. I never completly cheated i kissed my fiance but never slept with him while i was going out with my bf. Anybody have any ideas. and what makes it worse my parents love my bf but don't care so much for my fiance, beacuse i was 18 and he was 36 when we started going out. I'm still going to attend medical school.
2006-06-07 14:38:21 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
marry both. two is better than one.
2006-06-07 14:41:10 · answer #1 · answered by edhchoe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may ask yourself, which guy do I want to be with for the rest of my life? The new one's always better than the old one because you found it mysterious to be back with the 39-yr-old man. On the other hand, you have been with your bf and maybe you get bored of him so it might be better to try another guy...ask yourself if you really love the man who's double your age or is it just for some temporary excitement. Of coz, age isn't a problem at all. If you really love him more than you love your bf then you should talk to your bf honestly and tell him what is going on. You're going to the medical school so you don't have to rush to get married.
2006-06-07 14:55:18 · answer #2 · answered by BaBy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd somewhat or no longer it rather is particularly stable. seeing that i'm no longer a virgin, I have not have been given any perfect to choose my BF or fiance to be. it rather is particular in case you're making it particular. First time's are actual oftentimes surprisingly awkward so it would be much extra useful if the two actually everyone seems to be experienced.
2016-12-13 15:02:20 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you have a boyfriend I assume that cares for you deeply...why would you go back to someone that was in the past...plus he is twice your age....no one deserves to get cheated on and yes kissing is cheating, I am sure you wouldn't like it if you found out your bf was going behind your back and kissing an ex.....think about it.....
2006-06-07 14:44:20 · answer #4 · answered by nurse1983 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this is hard. You have to ask yourself the question, "Who is the one that I can see myself with twenty years from now? Who is going to make my life happy and satisfying and one that I will look back on and be glad about my decision?" It's hard, but once you ask yourself these questions, then talk to a close friend or even some sort of advisor and get their input on it. You might want to go with someone who has had experience in this sort of thing themselves. But, I would say to first ask yourselves questions and then talk to someone about it, other than your parents and friends.
2006-06-07 14:43:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had better not continue your engagement if you have feelings for someone else. Just tell him that you are too young to be in a serious relationship and have many years of difficult studies ahead of you now.
If you are going to go to med. school, you had better grow up and figure out how to be a responsible person in all phases of your life.
2006-06-07 14:42:25 · answer #6 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
18 and 36 the term, "Robbing the cradle" comes to mind. make sure it is love, and just not a dad infatuation... or you're gonna hurt alot of people.
2006-06-07 14:44:27 · answer #7 · answered by ld48fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your parents' intuition, they are usually right. Even though you may not think so at the time.
2006-06-07 14:43:42 · answer #8 · answered by john a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell your boyfriend and finance the truth and then you'll know who truly loves you.
2006-06-07 14:43:38 · answer #9 · answered by shny_daniels 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋