Even though your friend may feel that his parents are making unreasonable demands or setting a bad example in conduct, the Bible clearly commands: “Children, be obedient to your parents in union with the Lord, for this is righteous: ‘Honor your father and your mother’; which is the first command with a promise: ‘That it may go well with you and you may endure a long time on the earth.’”—Eph. 6:1-3.
“Honor” involves the recognition of duly constituted authority. For instance, Christians are commanded, “Have honor for the king.” (1 Peter 2:17) While you may not always agree with a national ruler, still his position or office is to be respected. In the family circle, God vested parents with certain authority as his representatives. Therefore, godly children should honor that authority. But children should show more than just formal respect. Our parents gave us life and are responsible for taking care of us. Certainly they deserve our respect and honor, even if just for that. “Be obedient to your parents in everything, for this is well-pleasing in the Lord.”—Colossians 3:20.
Respecting someone does not necessarily mean that you agree with them. As imperfect persons, parents may have serious problems or personality flaws. Yet, despite their shortcomings, God has given parents a certain amount of control over their children’s lives. But how can one feel respect when one’s parents are not respectable? Your friend can avoid developing resentment by trying to understand why his parents act the way they do. The answer is to search for their good qualities, appreciate these, and focus on them. He should remind himself of the benefits that his parents furnish. Reflecting on all that they have done for him over the years should move him to honor them.
Also, if his parents’ examples are bad, he should not conclude that everything they tell him is wrong. During the days that Jesus Christ was on earth, the religious leaders who had the authority to teach God’s Word became very corrupt. Yet, Jesus told the people: “All the things they tell you, do and observe, but do not do according to their deeds.” (Matthew 23:1-3, 25, 26) By respecting the counsel given from God’s Word, the people would be blessed by God. This can also be the case with your friend by honoring godly advice from your parents.
Very importantly, since your friend appears to be depressed, he should first pray to God for strength, guidance, and understanding. Depression among young people is a serious problem. He may also want to speak with a school nurse or some other professional who may be able to refer him to where he can get help.
(Note: This does not refer to utterly intolerable situations in which a child is subjected to physical or sexual abuse. In such instances, it is important to seek help from professionals outside the home.)
2006-06-07 15:28:52
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answered by Maia-Kine' 3
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Ephesians 6:1-3
2006-06-07 14:37:03
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answered by robert p 7
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Two verses instantly come to brain: "Fathers don't initiate your kids..." (Col. three:21) "Fathers don't initiate your kids to anger...." (Eph. 6:four) Additionally there may be the guideline to deliver up kids within the pleasure of the Lord in proverbs and the countless educating that kids are a blessing from the LORD. Therefore a dad or mum who treats their baby this manner is in hazard of divine punishment. Jesus particularly addresses individuals who mistreat kids "It might be larger for him to be thrown into the ocean with a millstone tied round his neck than for him to reason this sort of teenagers to sin." (Luke 17:two) See additionally Mathew 18:five, Mark nine:forty two In average the command is given in a confident feel to elevate your kids good and to welcome them. It must be famous that even at 613 legislation, the Torah was once in no way intended to be an exhaustive directory, however to be offered as a advisor for the way to behave in those and comparable instances. As issues baby abuse, abuse of any variety is in no way allowed. The verses above from Luke, Mathew, and Mark make it transparent that God takes exact exception while the sufferer is a baby. I must word that the baby isn't instructed to do some thing (they're a baby, for goodness sake), it's as much as the relaxation of the neighborhood to step in and support that baby. In any case, there may be nonetheless some way not to be "disrespectful" and but get out of the obstacle, no longer obey the "instructions" of this type of dad or mum, and to pursue authorized motion if critical. Now it does have to be a real disrespectful dad or mum as you set it, and no longer simply an adolescent and a dad or mum butting heads (as occurs in each and every loved ones finally). But if the obstacle is abuse, encouraging unlawful or immoral conduct, the dad or mum has failed completely and the baby does no longer ought to keep there.
2016-09-08 22:01:38
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answered by ? 4
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Your question makes me ask a few questions:
Did the parents teach him what respect was all about?
Was he raised in a home where respect was demonstrated at all levels?
Is this situation the result of a disagreement?
Remember, what one person considers sin, does not make it so. Man is fallible and subject to skewed opinions. Refer to your Bible for what is and is not sin. If you cannot make the determination for yourself, ask your pastor. By all means make sure you fully describe the situation, regardless of how painful it may be.
2006-06-07 15:00:47
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answered by Got a Plan 3
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His parents should of brought him up to respect them. If he is still young enough they can show they care or he going to have problems later in life. Those parents should have Parenting classes. Its the parents fault not tyour friend fault. Its a sin to disrespect parents or higher authority.
2006-06-07 14:32:46
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answered by Anonymous
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Whether or not this is a sin is really not the most important thing at this point.
More important is the need for your friend and his parents to patch up their relationship.
2006-06-07 14:31:21
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answered by Anonymous
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disrespecting yoour parents is a sin but the parents disrespectig him is another try sking ur friend to pray for his parents and u should pray for him too so i jus hope the best of u and ur friend
heres my email adress in case u have any questions:jhmc2@yahoo.com
2006-06-07 14:32:28
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answered by j3susfr34k 2
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One thing I have learned in life is you can't change others you can only change yourself. Tell him to stop blaming his parents and just do what he should that is right, honor them.
2006-06-07 14:35:54
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answered by oldguy63 7
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He should respect his parents, but maybe they don't deserve respect. Respect is earned. But he should at least bepolite and show good manners towards them.
2006-06-07 14:33:01
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answered by pieceomind4me 3
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Yes it is "so wrong." God's commandments are not very lenient..one of them is, "Honor thy father and mother." That is pretty cut and dry. It doesn't say you have to love them, but it does say you have to respect them.
2006-06-07 14:29:49
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answered by Anonymous
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