I love and respect my mom don't get me wrong...but she gets mad like on Wednesdays at her work they have to come up with a "win" for the day....and we do it at dinner.Tonight mine was that my boyfriend made it through his surgery okay and she was like well..lets make it a little more personal next time. Well, to be honest that's as personal as I could have to today. Yes, I am only 17 but no one understands my feelings and how much a I care for this guy. This isn't the first time she has tried to tell me I needed to be personal...well its not always about him like last week it was my friend Ashley who got in a wreck was alive....after some major things happened. I'm sorry but my friends are my life and who I really am I know she wouldn't understand probably. She waited 'till I was like 14 to try to come into my life anyway...I raised myself with my brother and I can't stand it I don't know how to show her that I respect her but can live my own life....Any advice would be appreciated...
2006-06-07 14:15:51 · 26 answers · asked by Sarah Beth 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have tried to talk to her about how I feely feel but she won't listen...she knows that I am going to be whoever the hell I want to be because I didn't have anyone in my life to tell me not to...
2006-06-07 14:21:48 · update #1
My friends are a big part of my life yes but she knows that I also like to write which is what I do by myself and do belegarth....my life is devoted to them and I have tried to talk to her it doesn't work
2006-06-07 14:30:56 · update #2
I'm seventeen too and I completely know how you feel. I'm madly in love with somebody and people don't take me seriously about it. I'll do anything for the love of my life. About your friends, it's so good that you care so much about them. It's nice to have someone to care about you so much. I know I love and care about my friends and I wouldn't want anyone saying anything bad about them. Between you and your mom; you're the better person. Don't let her tell you what you need to talk about or how personal it should be. If you want to talk about the bag of chips that you ate 3 years ago then do so. If she continues to say things to you just stand up for yourself. You're the better person. Good luck. ♥
2006-06-07 14:22:41 · answer #1 · answered by MOTHERRR SOUP 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It is good that you care so much about your friends, but your mom does not want to hear just about what is happening with your friends all the time. You have your own interests and needs too. Will you really want to devote the rest of life to your friends? As you grow up, your lives will change, but not in the same way. Some of you may get married sooner or later. Your mom may not be the best one in the whole world. Still, no one else can substitute her. I am not telling to spill the beans to her. You just cannot blame your mom for worrying about what kind of friends you associate with.
2006-06-07 14:29:11 · answer #2 · answered by metallica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have grown up friend, 17 is not a baby. And because you have grown up, I know you could think few things in better way.
I think your mother just wish the best thing 4 u, and she doesn't involve in your life more than 10 hours a day (I presume) so she may not really "click" between you and Ashley.
By understanding that you could just try and talk to her, if she can't bear to hear it then you could do like other grown up do.
Be patience after all she is your mother. By doing that you have shown, that you have really grown.
2006-06-07 14:30:02 · answer #3 · answered by supasentai 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom was the same way she was there but she really wasnt there and i grew up with my older brother and i took care of him and my little brother since she was always at work or away (Bar) i had to pick up the responsibilities and when i hit 13 i became rebelious and i think it was for attention but i did what i wanted and when i wanted so when i became pregnant and moved out and made a great life for my self and my new family she tried to take credit which was bull but i ignore anything she says cause i know what is the fact.. I got pregnant and moved out of my house at age 15 so if that gives u anything im glad if not im sorry my best bet is just ignore her you know what is right for your life!
2006-06-07 14:24:46 · answer #4 · answered by Gail 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know that what's bothering you it's the fact that maybe she barely came into your life 3 years ago, and whatever you're feeling has nothing to do with your bf your friends, i think maybe you resent her for barely being a part of you, barely now that you're a grown young woman. try to get to know your mom, maybe that's what's missing. try to let her understand that you can take care of yourself, that you appreciate what she's trying to do. you guys need to talk about all those years that she was absent. or maybe she's mad at herself for not being there when you were growing up and it seems unbelievable to her everything she missed out on, especially not being able to talk to you about private women things. the only advice i can give you if it helps for anything, get to know you're mom because whatever she says bothers you and whatever you say bothers her, so there's a big misunderstanding there, but both of you need more time for each other.
2006-06-07 14:27:29 · answer #5 · answered by Demonfairy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can talk with her. Let her know how you really feel. Tell her that you love and respect her, but you also want her to take your feelings a little more serious. Let her know how some of the things she do bothers you and why. Hopefully she will understand and take your feeling a little more serious. God Bless.
2006-06-07 14:29:16 · answer #6 · answered by infinityyyyyyy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur mom is not trying to be mean this WIN thing you guys have is a way for her to know whats going on with just you. Everyday all day it is your friends and your bf and school. Your mom probably just wants to squeeze in a moment with just the family. I think it is a great idea
2006-06-07 14:21:04 · answer #7 · answered by Natasha B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like a very mature young lady with a good head on your shoulders and your mom should respect that ,i don't no why your mom wasn't in your life until you was 14 but she should see that you are very mature other wise you would have no respect or love for her at all you need to just sit down and tell her i love you and i respect you ,you are my mom but these are my friends and i care deeply for them and if you cant understand that then I'm sorry ,
2006-06-07 14:35:35 · answer #8 · answered by sclady62001p 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your mom is trying to get to know you and how you feel, but is maybe going about it in a way that makes you feel like she is dismissing what you do share.
Tell her that your boyfriend and friends are personal issues for you at this point in your life and you feel like she doesn't understand their importance in your life.
2006-06-07 14:19:39 · answer #9 · answered by keri gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u only get 1 mother through out your life and she was on this earth before u so she knows what goes on she's not hear to hurt u but 2 help u so take her advise i was apart of huricane katrina and i thaught i would never see my mother again but i prayed and belived and now i know there is no 1 like mom
2006-06-07 14:26:54 · answer #10 · answered by louchemoney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋