I am 21 years old and I currently live at home with my Parents and my boyfriend of six years. My Mother is really pressuring us to move out. My boyfriend says that we arnt ready because neither of us makes very much money. I understand that my mother wants us out of her house because she wants to haver her privacy and everything, but I also agree with my boyfriend that we just arnt financialy ready yet. I am totaly suck in between. I see both sides of the argument, It seems that the only one suffering here is me because this has caused fights with both of them. so what should i do? should i just get out of here even though i know we cant afford it or should i continue stalling? either way i am going to have to deal with the others conflicting opinon. tell me what to do!
2006-06-07 13:47:17 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
set a time limit. then stick to it. if you both have been there 6 years its long enough. work and save.
2006-06-07 13:53:09 · answer #1 · answered by violet b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
since you and your boyfriend decided to live together, you should both be ready to have responsibilities that come with that decision. you think you're old enough to live together, you should be ready enough to support the union that you decided upon. it may not yet be marriage, but still, your mom has the right to demand her privacy. you did not bring a playmate in the house.
you admitted you're not ready financially, so why live together if you can't afford it? it's not just a matter of being together, living entails not only the bed that you share and what you do on it but the food that you eat, the bills that you have to pay and everything else in between.
grow up, that's the best thing you can do.
2006-06-07 13:56:26 · answer #2 · answered by travlin soul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this may not be what you want t ohear but plain and simple..Its your mothers house, If she wants you out you should leave. If youre grown up enough to be living with your boyfriend then you should be able to handle getting out on your own. It will be hard but thats what growing up is all about. You have your boyfriend to lean on and he has you. You two will make the best of it im sure. Sometimes you have to take a leap of faith rather than jump with a safety net. You can make it!!(and in the end it may just give her a lil slap in the face when she sees how successful the two of you end up) Good luck!
2006-06-07 13:54:26 · answer #3 · answered by Mia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The long and short of it: it's your mother's house. And unless you are paying her rent, she is entitled at this stage to ask you to leave.
As for what to do at this point, I agree with those that have said to set yourself a time-limit. It's a good compromise between both parties. You're giving your mother a time frame of when you will move out, but you're also buying you and your boyfriend time to figure things out financially.
2006-06-07 14:24:32 · answer #4 · answered by dsc1110 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your boyfriend want to set up house together than you should do it on your own not just move him in with your mum. She probably feels uncomfortable having him there as well. If you want to act like a married couple do it properly. You may discover that when both of you need to share the chores, that you may not be all that happy.
2006-06-07 14:02:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend has no right to stay in your mother's house. If your mom want you out and you can't leave now at least get your bf to leave. He is neither your husband nor your mother's son. She has no obligation to house him. In some cultures this arrangement is immoral and shameful. Don't stall.....leave, move out, scoot. Rent a room elswhere if you have to , but do move out.
2006-06-07 16:45:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your mom to give you a specific time frame, like 2-3 months so you can get things somewhat organized. Talk to your boyfriend and tell him that YOU want to get out in 2-3 months. Money wise, look for a better job. You already have experience doing something and that can help you out in another location. Look around. Biggest thing, tell them what they want to hear while giving yourself some time to work things out.
2006-06-07 13:53:02 · answer #7 · answered by vail2073 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-30 09:25:36 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should move out. TAke charge of your lives and be on your way to earning a better living, ie get student loans and go to college. It's your mom's house.
2006-06-07 14:24:06 · answer #9 · answered by daisy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mom and tell her that you guys are not finacial stable for you guys to move out. I fyou guys could stay there for alittle more while until you guys can get everything together. And if she says no then its best that you guys just move out and try ur hardest to make ends meet. God Luck and I wish the BEst for you guys...
2006-06-07 13:54:37 · answer #10 · answered by *QeEn-BeE* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋