I have contacted her parents and asked for permission to see her about 3 weeks ago when she turns 18, I haven't heard anything yet and I really don't know what to do next
2006-06-07 13:25:57 · 30 answers · asked by flablueeyes67 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Please don't listen to all these ignorant people who are bashing you for placing. They do not know your circumstances and are probably just a bunch of kids themselves.
Respect the parents because these are her parents.
If I was you, I'd contact the parents again and tell them you are waiting to hear from them and that you have a card you'd like to send. If they do not contact you back, I'd wait til after her 18th birthday. Good Luck! I hope the reunion is a sweet one for all!
2006-06-08 02:15:34 · answer #1 · answered by seeking2adopt 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to contact her now that she is 18, if you really cared anything about your child you wouldn't have given her up from the start. So, therefore I don't think you should send her a card and I don't know why her adopted parents would want to give you permission to see her even if she is turning 18.
2006-06-07 20:32:07 · answer #2 · answered by prcsdime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... really think about what you're going to do. I wouldn't go barging in on this child's life after 18 years with out knowing what you're getting yourself into. I would try to contact the adoptive parents again. Let them know that you will respect their wishes, and to please reply to your request - yes/no. After all, you have known of the child's whereabouts for a while and it should be enough proof that you haven't interrupted their lives except to ask their permission. Then leave it to them to decide. Remember, for whatever reason, you were not able to take care of your baby at the time, and these people have spent their lives providing a comfortable safe environment for her. I wish you all the luck in the world... Blessed be
2006-06-08 00:49:07 · answer #3 · answered by crisagi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutly. It think it is great that you want to rekindle your relationship with her. It will mean a lot, no matter what her parents think. The thing that adoptive parents know when adopt is that there may a chance that the biological parents may want to contact the child sometime in their life. They cannot do anything and it does no involve them. If she is turning 18, I am sure she will be touched that you not only want to contact her but also that you rememeber her birthday and she is not forgotten.
2006-06-07 20:34:35 · answer #4 · answered by Doodlebug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would send another card to the parents, expressing that you really want to contact her to see her. If nothing in the next month then you may send her a card. They may still be trying to find a way to let her know that she is adopted. ** On the other hand they may not want you to contact her and may through the card that you sent her out.
2006-06-07 20:30:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's mighty rough, but those are her real parents now. If they don't return your call, don't do anything. They may be concerned about how involved you want to get in the child's life, and they have every right to raise her as they wish, and choose who they want in their daughter's life.
Do you even know if this girl knows that she was adopted? If the parents never told her, then they would be really scared that she might get a card out of the blue.
2006-06-07 20:32:58 · answer #6 · answered by Da da da 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait to see if I heard back from her parents. She may not know she's adopted. If she does know, and you know this, then I would send her a card.
2006-06-07 20:27:32 · answer #7 · answered by GAgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say at 18 it would be fine. send her a nice letter (i would do it certified mail so only she can get it and you know she got it) then just wait. if she wants to contact you she can
good luck I have helped 4 Friend find there birth mothers and one find her father
2006-06-07 21:27:48 · answer #8 · answered by tpuahlekcip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I wouldn't unless you have either heard back from the child herself or the parents. They may have not even ever told her she was adopted. If they did, then in my opinion it should be her that contacts you and if she wants to she will. You shouldn't intrude in her life unless she decides she wants you in it.
2006-06-07 20:31:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait to hear from her parents first.
If you dont get a response from them, I suggest you send her the card - mark it "in care of" her adoptive parents.
2006-06-07 20:29:43 · answer #10 · answered by mand 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋