Do good girls finish last???

Question

Well, I'm 23 now when I was 21 I had my first relationship and I lost my virginity, We were together a year and a half, and two weeks ago I found out he cheated on me. I love this guy but I think I need to move on, but it's hard, I can't even imagine being with someone else, my question though is how do I stop feeling like I gave him all of me and I don't have anything special left to give anyone else, and where do I start so I can move on? and it doesn't help I'm shy, I don't even know where to meet guys well men I don't like little boys.Sometimes I feel like I should just try to work it out with him because I love him, but I don't want to live my life in that "comfort stage" where you need to move on but can't, I don't know what I want , well to be treated with love.

Answer 1

yeah they do

Answer 2

I'll let you in on a little secret. Although some men might like a virgin, alot would prefer a women who is not. If a man is not one(which at 23 or olde he probably isn't) he doesn't want the emotional challenges of taking a girls virginity. You can still give him something special without giving him your "v card". YOU!!! Believe me you can give more than enough special without that. Do not work it out with him. He does not deserve you. You deserve an honest man, and someone who will return the special love you give them.
Now meeting new people can be difficult, try being open to nice guys, not just "hot" guys.They're probably trouble anyway. Also, try some online dating services. yahoo personals and american singles were both good to me. I met a few nice people and usually a girl can get away without paying since only one person on american singles has to be a paying member.....
hope that helps at least a little.

Answer 3

First, if you are not married to this man it is not worth staying with him. You have nothing to work out. There are no vows holding you two together. End it! Cheaters stay cheaters until they meet that one. You weren't that one. Don't let that get you down though. You are definitely worth it hunny. Comfort is a false sense of security. Things go wrong. It happens to us all. But you can pick and choose what you want to happen. Make a list of the things you want in a man and don't settle. Get what you deserve. Give what you get honey. You have plenty to give right now your heart is hurt. He has irresponsibly left you feeling insecure. Shame on him that bastard. Women need love yes we are driven by our emotions. You can find that love from other places. Not just him. Your family and friends wont cheat on you. Draw on that until you find Mr. Right. You have plenty of time always. Guess what? After you dump him...enjoy being single girl. Play the field. Find out if you can come out of your shell. Dare yourself. Have fun! You don't have to become a slut. But you can see what other men are like. Once you find 'the one' don't treat him like your last man. Don't think of him like your last man. He isn't the same guy and you can end up hurting him. ;)

Answer 4

First know that you still have plenty left to give someone. While good girls do not finish last, just like good guys it takes a little longer to find your pace. You are just a bit more mature then boys your age, and when they catch up with you, they will be glad you are there for them. Church, clubs or volunteer groups could be great places to meet guys closer to your level and interests.

Answer 5

you are still young

you have a lot to give to someone else - and clearly you are a special person - kind, loyal, loving


you do need to decide where you feeling sit for him - can you forgive him, can you forget, is he genuinely sorry for his stuff up?

if the answer to any of the above is no - its time to move on

get out there and offer what you have got to the world - they will like it!!! and yeah if a good girl runs the race often enouhg she will eventually win - but you have to keeping competing!!!