2006-06-07 12:05:41 · 21 answers · asked by Julio 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Just be there for them. A shoulder to cry on.
2006-06-07 12:07:59 · answer #1 · answered by songbird 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First, give him/her a month or two, depending on what the death was like and about, by him/herself. Then take the person out to eat and take her mind off of that. If she mentions anything about it, quickly change the topic. Wait, until the person is ready to talk to you without breaking down in tears the whole time. Tell her it happened, you can't reverse it, and thinking about it and mourning all the time will not do anything. If she starts to get mad and moody, don't be mad back, just say ok. Let her be mad, then when she cools down, talk about good times and things to look forward to. If she says, why look forward when my friend is gone, say the same thing that was first stated, ( get over it, mourning will not get you anywhere) just keep your cool and help here cool down.
2006-06-07 19:13:51 · answer #2 · answered by comakazi l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We've all been there, right? Of course it hurts, but the pain subsides with time. The most important thing you can do for your friend is to encourage him/her to remember the past fondly. You can't change it, and you can't live in it. But, you sure can laugh your butt off at the good times! I think that is the best way to honor someone who has passed. Remember the good stuff. And share it.
Good luck
2006-06-07 19:15:48 · answer #3 · answered by staggerlee337 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to get over it. In time everyone they know will die. That is assuming they don't die first.
2006-06-07 19:08:40 · answer #4 · answered by hercules 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give her space and relate to her in a way by a similar situation that has happened to you, this will prove everything will be ok sooner or later.
2006-06-07 19:08:28 · answer #5 · answered by PlasticTrees 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to make them laugh about the good times ya had with the friend... laughter is the best medicine, and it will give you both some insights into the person... that is if you both knew him/her.
2006-06-07 19:09:30 · answer #6 · answered by Alanna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to make yourself available for them to cry on your shoulder. It is impossible to know everything that your friend needs, but important for you to know that you may or MAY NOT be needed to hang around. It's tough...
2006-06-07 19:09:52 · answer #7 · answered by mazoo_nc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Become even closer friends
2006-06-07 19:08:30 · answer #8 · answered by Ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get her/him a card & a picture frame so they can put a picture in of their friend. It's not smuggling the person...you are giving them room to breathe & deal, but at the same time, you are showing that you care about them, and understand what they are going through. good luck.
2006-06-07 19:08:02 · answer #9 · answered by Psycho B*tch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for your friend in these hard moments, and let him/her cry as much as he wants, even encourage it... crying now will help your friend not to cry later.
2006-06-07 19:16:38 · answer #10 · answered by ma_isa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her this it always make me laugh
its okay everyone has to die..2 seconds later
execpt me i shall live forever...until a car hits me!
2006-06-07 19:08:12 · answer #11 · answered by [blahh] ™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋