We have been friends (with benefits) for awhile. He knows how I feel (without it being said). I thought I knew how he felt (but that was before I was actually available and able to be with him). Yeah I know that sounds bad but you gotta know the situation. At times the guy and I are like 1. We know what the other is thinking and feeling. The thing is now that I am able to do something about our "relationship", I want to know from him if it will actually go anywhere or am I just wasting my time. If it will always be "friends" okay fine, I will move on. But I dont want to just move on to someone else because he is the one I really want. Should I tell him that I think I am in love with him (I really do) and see how it goes or should I just let it go and maybe one day when all is said and done, I will have what I want. Why do guys want you when you are unavailable, but when you become available they run scared?
2006-06-07 11:48:42 · 6 answers · asked by mysterynwaiting 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am in this very situation. I pestered, and asked, and begged and compromised time and time again. He also knows exactly what I want, and exactly how I feel about him. He doesn't know that I love him though...
I think that over a nice dinner, or just kicking back and IF the mood is right, you should just ease into a conversation about the status of you guys' relationship. Find out FIRST what it is he wants. Does he want to be with YOU? Or just want to be with your Kitty?? I am not saying this out of offense, I am saying this out of love for another woman because I am going through it right now. My heart is broken because I have been sleeping with someone for the past 3 years not knowing if we had a "relationship" or not. Find out what he wants. Do Not tell him you are in love with him. Let him know you care, and you think of him often, and all that mush. But do not tell him you love him. Do not use the L-word. It will scare him, especially if he doesn't feel the same or hasn't even considered how he feels for you, or where he wants to take things.
I myself had to take a huge step back from "my" guy. It hurts so bad to love someone and to not have those feelings coming back to you in return. Please do not fall into this hurtful emotional trap.
Find out where he's at in terms of y'alls "relationship". What does he want? Is he willing to take things up a notch, and commit to you and you only? If not, screw him. Because all he'll do is keep screwing you. And in the end, I can tell you, it hurts more than words.
If you feel to, you can write back. If he's not ready for what you are ready for, GET OUT!
2006-06-07 11:58:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just enjoy the friend thing (without bebefits) a while longer till you can figure out if he feels the same way. if you think he does, then tell him
2006-06-07 18:52:08 · answer #2 · answered by Jan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pls just ask, it's the same question everyday. Ask him
Talk to him
2006-06-07 18:51:34 · answer #3 · answered by jamie d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest with him tell him how you feel and let him decide either way youll know for sure
2006-06-07 18:51:48 · answer #4 · answered by Sharon S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with him for your own sanity...
2006-06-07 18:51:32 · answer #5 · answered by KRIS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him if he chickens out leave him
2006-06-07 18:51:57 · answer #6 · answered by janetjj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋