my x and i have been broken up for several months we still have feelings for each other but she is not ready for a relationship yet. so we are friend right now but since we r friends she plays these little games. comes out with excuses all the time. when i ask her to go out she comes out with an excuse. she get jeolous when i have fun and other girls are interested in me. before i was available to her with open arms now i cut back on that now she s complaining about it. i hate being like this but she is taking me for granted i know it.
how can i turn things around? i brought her flowers and gifts always compliment her etc etc but she s not budging
what am i doing wrong? please help me out
2006-06-07 11:43:51 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
let her go..she's just testing you now...she doesnt want you, but no one else can have you...trust me, you will be better off without each other...sorry
2006-06-07 11:46:15 · answer #1 · answered by spaceyinla 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK mate she's playing games with you and as your rightly said you know it! First things first do you really want to be with a girl that is running circle round you? Accepting flowers and gifts and not giving anything in return. I'm sorry mate your a real woose.
The fact of the matter is, your not getting any respect and how can any relationship work without respect? Don't get me wrong it's good to buy a girl flowers and gifts but do it within a relationship! Not to try and buy her love because it won't work!
There are plenty of ways you can deal with this and it is not sufficient to just say "she is a girl so she will like this" because summing up 50% of the planets population under one group is not possible. Only you know her!
Just take a step back mate, don't try so hard and let it develop naturally.
Alternatively you could just say to her your taking it any more and what does she want to do. Although to be honest chances are she will just say "I don't know" and it won't get you anywhere. You might feel better though =P
Good luck mate.
2006-06-07 11:52:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for one thing.............you can make a decision to Grow Up. Are you talking an ex-wife? or ex-girlfriend? You are playing games and acting immature..........you need relationship counseling and to be mature. The words such as Jealously, excuses, complaing and then trying to "buy" her with flowers and gifts is all a bunch of Bull----. Before you can have a mature, meaningful relatioship you must stop acting like a teenager and focus on your behavior!!
2006-06-07 11:49:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't do anything wrong, but you would be most benefitted by getting over it. There is a reason you broke up and once you start the on again off again trend, it will never end. Can you deal with that for the rest of your life? Then just be friends.
2006-06-07 11:46:19 · answer #4 · answered by weebat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-08 07:32:16 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're not doing anything wrong if you ask me she's playing games with you and as much as i hate to admit it most girl do this including me. leave her alone for a bit and when she sees that she misses you she'll prob accidentally 'bump' in to you in a shop or other place she knows you go or drop you a text saying hi, if she does this then it's OK to text back but don't do it straight away wait a bit, and don't make you're self so available women often want what they cant have. if she doesn't 'bump' in to you or text to although it's hard admit it probably wasn't meant to be.
2006-06-07 11:54:17 · answer #6 · answered by curious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe a romantic date. Think of something she would never predict that you'll do. This is my plan:
ASK HER OUT
1. Call her in the mornning and tell her to look nice
2. Get red & pink candles everywhere in ur house. Flowers and lots of it. A big teddy bear with a sign saying I MISS YOU Rose tulips in the bath tub. Rose tulips in the bedroom (incase you guys wanna you noe) Spray the room with a nice perfume
3. Get her a present and really think bout it WILL SHE LIKE IT? If its a maybe then DONT. If its ofcoure and YESSSS BUY IT
4. Call her and go like lets go out as in like u noe u wanna hang but really ur taking her to a nice restuatrant
5. Take her back into your house and suprise her with all the stuff you diid
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If you dont like this why dont you
1. Take her to ur house blah blah suprise her
She fall madly in love with you blah blah
2. Take her to the restaurant after so it can be a offical date
2006-06-07 11:56:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not doing anything wrong!! I speak from experience my boyfriend and i recently broke up. he screwed up and i made sure he knew it! we do the whole friend thing, and i date other men but get so jealous even if he talks to other women. she is probably doing what i do, and that is keeping you around as a "just in case." you have to realize if she is worth waiting around for and take the chance she might find someone else!
2006-06-07 11:50:55 · answer #8 · answered by jessie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In MY opinion only, if she's playing games with you and giving you excuses, than she may very well never be ready to commit to you.
Move on and live YOUR life....stop waiting for her. Maybe when she matures and when/if she makes the decision that you're the one she wants to be with, then she'll be ready to be serious.
2006-06-07 11:47:33 · answer #9 · answered by dubbledee71 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that she should get her act straight if she really likes you because you don't like these "games" she is playing..Tell her if she doesn't stop she's going to lose you and if she doesn't?Stay with your word and stop talking to her completely.Move on..When she calls back (she will) tell her you were honest with her and now you just don't want her because you don't want to deal with a confused person.She'll regret it!
2006-06-07 11:49:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make her make the next move. Go on with your life and if she really loves you she will come around.You can not stop your life just for her you need to move on she will have to catch up with you if she is willing. Good luck
2006-06-07 11:49:01 · answer #11 · answered by liza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋