2006-06-07 11:20:35 · 10 answers · asked by crystlblsm 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My first suggestion would be to discuss sex with them first and lead the conversation to what you do with people you love. Then change the topic to people who are not being loving hit people and hurt people and some people molest people and then explain the meaning of that and tell them how that is very wrong too and to always be comfortable talking about questions reguarding sex and reguarding love and if anyone ever hurts you emotionally or physically or inappropriately (molesting) to always talk with you about it. Explain the importance of it. Be confident and comfortable.
If you are asking because you are concerned about a family member touching them I would start the conversation ASKING what they know of sex and any type of kissing or touching and start into the conversation of teaching about sex and love from there. I know they are young but you do not need to be graphic. Just make them aware of the very basics in the world of sex. I would teach about STD's and risks of pregnancies a little later in a few more years.
I recently heard of an AIDS website for support they may have some information I thought it was a very positive website for adults to feel comfortable in their skin. The site is http://www.poz.com/ . I also refered your question to a best friend of mine named Margaret who created this elaborate website. http://www.ibiblio.org/rcip RCIP stands for Rape Crisis Information Pathfinder and can be found by doing a search in any search engine for rape crisis. I will let you know what she advises also.
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2006-06-07 11:24:00 · answer #1 · answered by melissa13182 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you mean how to talk to them about where it is appropriate to be touched and where it isn't, you can make simple yet specific references to the areas in question. Example, you should never let anyone touch or see you where your underwear covers you. For younger children you can make gingerbread men and point out those areas. Or you can simply draw a picture of a person's sillhouette and point out the areas. There are also books such as "My Body Is Private". If you mean helping a child to open up about a moletstation they have experienced, you may want to seek a professional therapist or psychologist.
2006-06-07 12:03:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain that there are some sick people in the world who do things to hurt little boys and girls. They touch them in a funny way (you don't have to go into detail) or they show them things only for grownups. If anyone tries anything with your kid they should come running to tell you RIGHT AWAY. They should never be scared of your reaction, or your safety. Explain that no one should ever touch them (esp down there) and if it feels bad it probably is. Let them know that you are there to protect them and that they should be able to talk to you about everything.
Keep the lines of communication open. Let them know that no matter what they can tell you anything and you won't judge them. It's important that they feel they can talk to you otherwise, if it happens, the shame and fear will keep them quiet.
2006-06-07 11:30:45 · answer #3 · answered by coco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately children are to young to understand what a child molester is, children are very trusting and cannot concieve of others actually wanting to hurt them in that way you need to tell them about bad people and explain to them what they should do to keep the bad people from hurting them and what they should do in a situation like that if it occurs, also monitor their computer for their safety, make sure you have parental controls on your computer because even though its an invasion of their privacy its better to be safe then sorry...
2006-06-07 11:26:30 · answer #4 · answered by hearts_bleed_dark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Openly&honestly
2006-06-14 05:23:22 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my daughter is 8 and son is 11 i just explained to them that there are not nice people that sometime try to touch kids were they shouldnt be touched and if anything was to ever happen to tell me ...we have had such long discussions about this and kidnapping if they got lost someone tried to talk to them....its good to make them feel they can talk to you about anything...and we wont be mad at them....so they wont be afraid...my kids are pretty aware of alot.....good luck!
2006-06-07 11:26:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
www.ncmec.org has some good info on it national center for missing and exploited children
2006-06-07 11:25:18 · answer #7 · answered by gchastonay@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
havent had to go through that yet
2006-06-14 02:39:39 · answer #8 · answered by mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you tell them what to dont let other people to do to them
2006-06-07 11:22:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HONESTLY AND AS SOON AS THEY ARE OLD ENOUGH TO UNDERSTAND... THERE ARE TOO MANY SICK AND TWISTED PEOPLE OUT THERE NOT TO...
2006-06-07 11:25:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋