God is the one who gives you feelings for someone right? Well why does he do that then take them away from you for a while just like that? See I have just met someone about a month ago and we just got to know each other pretty good and I liked him alot Im not sure he felt the same but I know I felt somthin, neways he just told me other day he was moving away for a year maybe two and I didnt get to say bye or anything but its just like he took him away from me!!! Can ne one Explain?????
2006-06-07 11:08:52 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
2 points do you really think God is inside your head pushing buttons and pulling cords? God did not give you feelings for that person and nor is God sitting behind a desk calling this guy and pulling him away from you. God may be all powerfull but he has to allow his children some space for free will, or he would be an evil comunist dictator! =P
However maybe God DID mean you to meet this guy. Through simple cause and effect lives can be channeled with no effect on free will, and yes it hurts when we are seperated but don't think you can predict the future, a life time is a long time.
4 years ago through a million to 1 chance I met a girl in an internet Chat room, a series of events came together at the same moment to have us meet at that moment I can honestly say that if events had been diffrent by a second either way she would NEVER have come into my life. In the 4 years that passed she became the greatest friend I had ever had, we wrote eachother 300 letters each and spoke nearly every night on MSN. I know it sounds nerdy! =P yet we were on other sides of the world and had managed to become closer to eachother then anyone else we had ever met without meeting. I recently flew several thousand miles for the soul purpose of meeting her, and it was amazing. I met someone for the first time and knew everything about them! The few weeks we were together were some of the best weeks of my life, and then I had to fly home.
I'm sitting here now thinking of her everyday and still writing to her all the time, it hurts like hell to have so much distance between us. I'm still at school and so is she, so it will probably be 2 or 3 years until I am able to see her again.
It seems God has a sense of humour when he put us on other sides of the world. But would we have developed the same relationship if she sat next to me in Maths? And would it be better to not have met her and not have this pain in my life?
Ofcourse not! We both live completly seperate lives, I have gf's and she has bf's yet what we have together is far more special then that, and we draw strength from that relationship in anything that is happening in our lives, and I trust that in the future our lives will come together and we can live it together. Only time will bring that.
But through all the pain of the distance I sincerly believe God meant us to meet in that 2 second gap 4 years ago, and I think him with all my heart for creating her, and allowing our paths to cross.
P.S. akristel2003 talks some real bull! lol
2006-06-07 11:28:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, noones life is perfect, and something similar to this has happened to everyone. Second, maybe he wasn't the right person for you..maybe the feelings you had were just excitement from dating a new person.
He might even be the right person, but this is God's way of testing you both. Will you still love eachother through this whole time?
I have dated a few guys and I know that for the first month or so, it is really exciting and really great, but after awhile, it gets sort of dull and you both realize things you don't like about each other. You will know it is true love if you are able to get through these things and still love each other after a few years.
2006-06-07 11:16:08 · answer #2 · answered by Cavalia 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is not a question about God. In this world we as human beings have CHOICES. Maybe its fate or maybe its God's will that you met. But it was the circumstances of you and the other person that created feelings. If God is the reason why we have feelings for one another you might as well say that you shouldn't work anymore. That it's God's will that you should live and God will provide food for you.
No matter what you believe in, the fact is that you have choices. If you wanted this person enough you could move with him. Hope this helps.
2006-06-07 11:23:58 · answer #3 · answered by NeverLoose 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, God gives you feelings and relationships you can enjoy. But your feelings are dictated by a lot of different things. Also, when someone comes into your life, there are no guarantees that the person will be there tomorrow. So you have to thank God for the time you had with them.
2006-06-07 11:13:57 · answer #4 · answered by stick man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God does everything for a reason!! Maybe it was a blessing that you met the person in the first place!! Instead of asking questions to us about it ask God! If he can't explain the answers to you then read the bible!! (Proverbs) It deals with wisdom and that's something you'll want!! God doesn't want you to hurt or to feel pain either. He wants to be your number one and maybe you need to put him there. God is a jealous God and he doesn't like for men (men/women) to be first in someone's lives.. and him be second. I would check my priorities and then if i really couldn't find the reason why, then i would ask God!!
2006-06-07 11:15:11 · answer #5 · answered by courtneybrooks_2002 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men at time can be very shallow. I ask, Where is his character? If has no time to consider even explaining to you his decision as to events upcoming in his life then him taking off was a good thing. Love and the true feeling of it will never leave your mind. Find a man where you can mentally and physically match. Finally, never take anyone for granted.
2006-06-07 11:14:30 · answer #6 · answered by YcopyU 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People come in and out of our lives all the time and we may not know why. You just have to go with what happened and pray about it if you think God brought this person into your life for some reason.
2006-06-07 11:11:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't know the answer. I've been liking this guy for a yr. and a1/2 and we talk very little and know very little about each other, asked him out and he said no, yet I still like him. I just don't understand it either. Though I'm sure it has nothing to do with God being cruel it's just life. You'll just have to suck it up and move on.
2006-06-07 11:14:41 · answer #8 · answered by Breanna 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
God doesn't give you any challenge he know you can't handle, he knows your heart, your stregnth and your weaknesses. If this guy is leaving it is probably for a reason. Maybe you should stop viewing it as a punishment, and more as a chance to grow, and learn. It will give you a better perspective of the situation
2006-06-07 11:12:46 · answer #9 · answered by sweetgurllexi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some people come into our lives just to pass by, some to teach us a lesson or help us accomplish something and some stay for the rest of our lives. everything happens for a reason...maybe it's not just meant to be or maybe this is just a start and you'll find him again someday and continue what you've started..but don't put your hopes too much on that just live the life and be happy
2006-06-07 12:30:02 · answer #10 · answered by honeylick 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋