She is supposed to do her own laundry but I think she never washes her clothes. She also claims to shower. It's not as if she hasn't been told; rather she seems to not believe us or to even care. She also has very few friends and this might be why. What can a loving aunt do?
2006-06-07 10:53:25 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Take her shopping for deodorants, make it seem fun. Maybe she is embarassed and so is in denial about it. Or maybe she has low self-esteem, so she thinks that nothing can be done. As a loving aunt, have a one-on-one talk with her, one that doesn't sound judgmental or pushy - it will only make her shrink away from you more. Get into girly mode with her, make her feel comfortable and tell her that as soon as girls hit puberty the body goes to different changes, and one of it includes body odor but that there are things that you can do about it - like deodorants, personal hygiene. Then take her shopping, like what I said, so that the more involved she is with the process of keeping her body clean and smelling good, the more she will stay that way.
Goodluck and kudos to you for being a good aunt!
2006-06-07 11:02:23 · answer #1 · answered by hotmomma23 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All the suggestions are wonderful. My son is 11 and has BO from his intense activities - foot ball during recess, etc. I think he thinks it is masculine, but he chose his own deodorant with some scent he likes and will even take it to school to use after recess. A cheaper option than a day at the spa might be to have a girls night at her house. Help with her laundry - even if she is doing it is she using the right water settings and right amount of detergent. Make it fun by blasting music, dancing and singing while doing laundry . Hold up her outfits and exclaim how pretty they are and how they compliment her coloring... Style each others hair, do each others nails. Maybe gift some scented soap, shampoo, deodorant, as others have suggested.
2006-06-07 23:48:15 · answer #2 · answered by Jill M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treat her and yourself to a day at a salon and then go and get your nails done. Maybe go to a spa. I think that you'll find this to have a positive impact on her hygiene because once she understands that she can be pretty and feels pretty then she will want to keep that feeling going and she may have a new confidence about her. If that doesn't work for you, then she may need professional help. She sounds as if she may have clinical depression. I am not a dr., but have depression myself. Usually with depression your image suffers because you don't have the motivation to keep yourself looking good, you'd rather be in bed or watching TV, and tend you to keep to yourself alot. Medication helps substantially with this.
2006-06-07 19:02:28 · answer #3 · answered by Christy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please continue to help her. Talk to her about hygiene and about doing laundry. You could take her swimming and when she goes to the shower give her a small basket of personal products. Encourage self esteem and look through magazines with her. Take her clothes shopping and help her try on clothes and discuss how she looks and how others see her. You will be doing her a great service. No one is ever so big as when they stoop to help a child.
2006-06-09 20:30:00 · answer #4 · answered by folklore 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember in Jr.high a girl WHO smelled bad. She always smelled dirty and got made fun of 4 it. I never made fun of her, but she did smell bad. Certain foods can cause body Oder like garlic. Just try to tell her you love her and you and not juding her. Take her to a bath and body works they sell WONDERFUL smelling body stuff. You don't even have to tell her she smalls bad to get her to go sh oping with you. Also I had a friends mom who always told her daughter and I to smell our bed covers when we woke up and that was what we smelled like. It dose work To: till this day I still smell my covers it is hard to tell what your self smells like. Also maybe have her mom tell her doctor about the problem he may have a suggestion or a way to bring it up to the girl.
2006-06-07 18:30:46 · answer #5 · answered by mandie_darkness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not everyone can help it-she might have issues past not showering. i dont think that she would willingly not shower and its probably just hormones on a girls body.
2006-06-07 19:30:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is she eatting...somethings bring on strong body odor such as garlic, fish oils, etc.
2006-06-07 18:03:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋