my sister wont speak to me what should i do?

Question

my sister hasn't spoken to me in 4 years she says i am a lier and this is not true i remarried and she did not agree with it she wont even say what it is i am lying about and i have know idea, i have tried talking to her but no luck , this hurts me so bad , i have begged forgivness for whatever i have done but still know luck this is hurting me so bad and it is hurting our mother even more everyone has talked to her but nothing works, she is here visiting this week with my mom and says if i come down there to my moms she will pack up and go back to south carolina , my mom is so hurt , i told my mom i would stay away for a week but she says i should not have to do that , my sister professes to be a christian but still wont change her mind about me she says it i died she would not even be at my funeral.what should i do , please send answer soon. I love my sister and am so hurt.

Answer 1

The fact that your sister will not talk to you is not your fault. You have graciously apologized to her - for something you don't even understand what you are apologizing about. No matter what it is that you might have done or that the fact you married someone she didn't like or whatever - doesn't constitute her not speaking to you.
Let me also reassure that not all Christians behave this way - Christ teaches that we need to forgive and love one another, not shun and ignore people when we don't like what they have done.
Stop trying to kiss her butt - you have done more than your share to try to make things work out. Since she won't listen to you and she threatens to leave whenever you both might be in the same place you can do one of two things - go to your mom and have your mom hide her car keys - confront her there and ask her to lay out exactly why she is so angry with you, tell her to tell you from the beginning to the end, and let her talk, even if she's wrong. You both really need to hear eachother's sides and come to a resolution. The other option would be to write her a letter, send it certified so she can't say she didn't get it - and tell her your thoughts and feelings that way. Other than that this is all on her. The fact that she won't talk to you is childish and immature.
Talk to your mom about this and tell her you have done what you can to remedy the situation. This isn't your fault!! Whatever may have caused this might have been something to do with you, but this situation going this far is now your sister's fault.
Whatever you decide to do, make sure you do it with love and forgiveness - be the bigger person.

Answer 2

Send her some flowers that she likes. And with the card put your cell phone number in there saying "CALL ME". You don't want to freak her out by showing up at your moms. Like your mom said she would pack up if you came over. Find out from your mom what you did so terribly wrong. It can't be that bad.

Answer 3

Try sending your sister a heartfelt letter and asking your mother to give it to her.. Have your mother ask her to read it... I know it is hard.. but it is worth it to get your sister to talk to you.. Family is forever... and sisters need each other.. When your parents are dead all you hve is your siblings.. Good Luck.. Say a prayer.. :)

Answer 4

send her a letter. that usually works.
explain hwo incredibly sorry you are for whatever you did.
i know you probably told her this already but say it again.
make her listen to you.
call her. arraneg a phone blind date--where you woudl be the date.
maker her understadn that you have to talk with her- let her go away, but first she has to listen.
and definitely don't visit-itll just make matters worse.
GOOD LUCK!

Answer 5

She's obviously an immature brat. Don't stress yourself out about her...you don't deserve your feelings to be in turmoil because your sister is stubborn. Surround yourself with people that love you and you love.