My mother was physically & emotionlly abusive. She used to tell me when I was little 'no wonder no one likes you', she told me my friends were using me, she called me pizza face when I had acne. Top it off kids at school made fun of me, told me I was ugly & stupid everyday, I had 1 or 2 friends thru school. As an adult I don't deal with conflict well. Very self concious about myself & the way I look. After 19 yrs being told u r a certain way it is hard to believe otherwise I'm 25 now. 6 months ago after a fight with my bf & us almost breaking up, I went out with friends we were drinking when my one friends bf made a comment I was a dumb blonde, he walked by me and messed up my hair. I went into the bathroom to try to fix it, I looked horrible. Thru the night he called me a dumb blonde and continued messing my hair, another friend confronted him in front of my friend, he said right in front of me that I was ugly and that I had shitty hair. I got really drunk that night & wanted to die.
2006-06-07 10:22:53 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I was fighting with my boyfriend. My friends boyfriend told me I was a dumb blonde and ugly and messed up my hair.
2006-06-07 10:37:33 · update #1
I am so sorry that has happened to you. Please don't hurt yourself. I know it's hard when you feel like this, I go through similar issues, but try to be more positive and hang out with people who like you for who you are. If you see your mom, tell her what she has done to you and tell her that it's affected your life. Get it off your chest. Next time someone treats you bad, tell them off, don't let them step on you anymore.
2006-06-07 10:33:12 · answer #1 · answered by prettypixie1997 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
First, i think your mom is full of ****. My father is just like your mom, I am 21 and since last year I began to point out my father that he is not really so smart, and that I am not the stupid kid he thougth I was, and if in fact i look like a f@g, then why some really cute girls like me.
About people outside of the family, first you got to be indifferent to whatever they say about you, however look around. The guy who was calling you stuff that night, I bet you can find deffects on his body and/or personality, so let him know about them when time is best suitable (which is when he is already having a bad time).
One problem there is that bullies often find peolpe who won't fireback so they keep constantly picking on them.
It is pretty hard to deal with all the stuff parents fill you with while growing up, but in my experience, feels good to know one of my father's problem was his fear of me outsmarting him, and now, seeing him struggling with the most simple stuff in life, well I realize what is the problem with him.
2006-06-07 17:34:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a great person. Don't let anyone tell you that you are ugly. I bet you are a beautiful person and you need to get a different set of friends!
You may not like this, but you should check out every college age group in all the Christian churches in your area until you find one you like. Try Baptist, Mennonite, Church of Christ, Non-demoninational Community Churches, Independent Community Churches, etc. Those who are really God-loving people will be willing to admit they are just like you and need the support of good friends who are trying hard to make the right choices and survive in a world that is not nice to people most of the time. You need a place of refuge and a place where people will love you for who you are and who God has made you.
I haven't always had the best luck with finding friends myself. My circle of good friends that I feel I can relate to and confide in is quite small. I can say that God is the best friend I have and He understands me the best. You simply must cry out to Him and tell Him you want Him to give you a life that is worth living.
Life is definitely worth living!! Life is an adventure with good and bad, but it is much more bearable with God at your side. Don't let anyone take away your life, even yourself. You can get through this living hell you feel you are in. Just give yourself time to work it out!! You are worth it!
2006-06-07 17:50:16 · answer #3 · answered by Teresa S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is advice- Find new friends- Do not allow others to treat you like a dishrag. BREAK THE CYCLE of allowing others to abuse you emotionally. No need to become upset or violent- just quietly find new friends or hang out only with friends who respect you. You KNOW you are a valuable wonderful person- if others abuse you, it reflects on THEIR character, not yours. Stay far away from these people.
2006-06-07 17:34:09 · answer #4 · answered by CK11030 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, quit drinking (for now). Next, get rid of your sh***y boyfriend that should stand up for you no matter what. Then get some professional counseling. It took years for the people that are supposed to love you break you down. It going to take some time to build yourself back up. You need to put yourself above all others. And please take my advice about seeing a professional - you deserve to be happy and loved, no matter what other people may say - but it begins with you.
2006-06-07 17:30:27 · answer #5 · answered by staple remover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was totally out of line! you deserve better treatment than that!
at least your friends stood up to him which in itself shows you what a good person that your are - they obviously dont think like that *** does.
dont listen to what he or anyone else says ( iknow, easier said than done) but he is not worth the hastle, you are a beauiful person and im certain that if you asked any of ur friends they would tell u the same thing.
2006-06-07 17:32:00 · answer #6 · answered by littleladyclaire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in charge of your life now! Get away from "friends" that are negative! You don't need them.
If you are religious, find a church that is friendly and welcoming.
If not, get involved in your community, volunteer at a senior center or pet shelter. You'll meet new people and feel better about your life.
2006-06-07 17:33:55 · answer #7 · answered by sassysugarchef 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Golly. Reading your question was like reading a summary of my life. I hear you on that ****. I went to a shrink though, and was diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, which explains everything. They put me on meds, I feel great now. You need therapy, as I do, and I think our mothers should pay for it. Email me anytime.
2006-06-07 19:02:40 · answer #8 · answered by jenntwoenns 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey no matter what anyone says to you remember this.....In Gods eyes you are a beautiful women no matter what. You need to get away from the crowd that your with now & find new friends. Pray & talk to God he will give you new friends that won't talk down to you & will respect you. Guys that talk to girls like that are idiots. Take care & remember to talk to God he will answer your prayers, don't give up.
2006-06-07 17:32:09 · answer #9 · answered by tigger81132003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, ditch the loser, no man should ever disrespect you like that. second, seek counseling. your pastor should do it for free and spiritual based counseling is very good and more effective to me, 3rd, surropund yourself with all your good friends and have fun. sorry to hear about your mum
2006-06-07 19:28:11 · answer #10 · answered by uiucsmith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋