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I have a really good friend who once weighed 350 lbs. She is now down to 149 lbs. It took her a little over 2 years to lose it following a crazy diet, as well as strenuous exercise. I don't know what her mind set is like right now, but she looks like a walking zombie. She is constantly allowing herself so many calories a day. Every friday she will eat out, but that is the only day she lets herself be 'free' from all that mess. I ask her if she will hang it up and start to eat just a little more than 1200 calories a day, but she insists she must get the last 5 remaining lbs off. And... the 5 remaining lbs aren't off yet. Isn't her body trying to tell her something? You can't expect loose skin to disappear following a diet. That is all that's left. Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated.

Also, her doctor says she must lose the last 5 lbs, but he must be a wack case. Or, she could be lieing to me to get me to shut up about it.

Thanks!

2006-06-07 09:58:39 · 8 answers · asked by Brandon 3 in Health Diet & Fitness

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Well tell your friend you need to talk somewhere where it's quiet and tell her that you're destroying your body and self-esteem and confidence and that you're okay just the way you are. A lot of girls feel fat and ugly when nothing at all is wrong with them and pick a plan for her that includes the foods and things she likes to do. Show her pictures, videos, or stories about how this is just putting pain in herself and that she doesn't need do this. And you are not alone a lot of people especially young feel this way about their body image and it may be influenced by media, magazines and other things, but again things can change in a good way over time. But remember to accept her for who she is and speak with her in an assertive way not aggressive. You can change her life, good luck.

2006-06-07 10:32:13 · answer #1 · answered by Sophia 4 · 1 2

Cheesy, that is UTTER Bull SH*T! Your friend may be in serious trouble, playing around with Bulemia or Anorexia. My friend went through a very similiar struggle, and kept after that last "5 Lbs"... Well, the 5 lbs turned out to be another 20, which she did lose. By then I had grown majorly concerned, as she was farther from a "Healthy" appearance. Turns out that though she was counting calories so strictly and excercising, she was also bulemic, and tossing her cookies every meal! She may be battling self esteem issues or simply have an unreallistic goal for her target weight. The Doc MAY be a quack, maybe not. You'll probably never know though, so don't sweat it...
Most Importantly, be there for your friend and support her, but don't allow her to waste away in front of your very eyes! As far as counting calories so strenuously, my friend, though in recovery for Bulemia, took years to get over her habit of "Watching" every calorie she put into her body!

2006-06-07 17:07:44 · answer #2 · answered by Skate Rat Betty 2 · 0 0

Well. you have a major dilema. I think you need to take her aside somewhere where she cant like try to get away from you. Sit her down and say we need to talk. Tell her how she needs to stop trying to lose weight. She is at a normal size and she is fine the way she is. She doesnt have to get those last five pounds off. She doesnt need to be a skinny person, just a healthy one. If her docter really is telling her to lose those last five pounds then i think she needs to go see a different doctor. If she keeps telling you that her doctor says that. suggest she see another doctor so that she can get a second opinion. maybe she will go for it. Good luck!

2006-06-07 17:03:42 · answer #3 · answered by laziedazie 4 · 0 0

I would be concerned as well. Your friend lost 201 lbs so far!
That is amazing and wonderful. Tell her that she looks fine and that if she losses any more weight, people will not find her attractive because she will look like a walking zombie, and she will find herself even more depressed.
Men do not like "unhealthy" looking girls. That would freak them out.
Tell her to stop or you will be visiting her in the hospital with tubes in her!

2006-06-07 17:04:47 · answer #4 · answered by uchaboo 6 · 0 0

Well actually most diets allow for strict guidelines and one day of "freedom". It's that whole swimsuit thing. As for the whole doctor thing I don't think she has to lose five pounds I heavily doubt it. Just let her know you're there for her, and if you need to you might have to get someone else involved. Maybe her parents or someone who she trusts and listens to; a fresh perspective who hasn't said anything yet.

2006-06-07 17:03:45 · answer #5 · answered by laydlo 5 · 0 0

You cannot stop your friend from staying on a diet and taking in how many calories she is allowing her self. If her dr put her on that diet, then he knows what is best for her, and she knows what is best for her body. Just be a good friend, and support her.

2006-06-07 17:00:55 · answer #6 · answered by farside76 5 · 0 0

Tell her honestly and as a friend that your worried about her but there for her through anything she needs. Tell her you worried about her losing so much weight at one time its good to take it slow. I think she should see another doctor! Dont tell her she looks horrible but try to say something like you look great you did such a good job i am proud of you, but i think you should stop now you look perfect!

2006-06-07 17:02:31 · answer #7 · answered by hb_usalm 2 · 0 0

tell her to eat or die

2006-06-07 17:05:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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