My boyfriends and I dated for 2 years..I love him with all my heart...he cheated on me and broke up with me...I didnt talk to him for 3 months, but after it happened he cried to me for 2 weeks to take him back but i was so hurt i couldnt! Now hes trying again and actually crying to me and tellin me how much he messed up! What do i do?
2006-06-07 09:56:41 · 26 answers · asked by Kate 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't let no one answer this question for you because none of us know him like you do, None of us have never been in a long term relationship with him, you have and only you know what is in your heart.
I personally it all depends on how I was treated in those two years, what kind of love & friendship we had, but see you must know that I am married and it's different when you are in an marriage, there's for better or worst and in a marriage this would be one of the worst times.
Let me ask this,how do you feel?
When he calls you crying what do you want to do?
Do you want to hold him and tell him that you forgive him and take him back or Do you want to hear him hurt like he has hurt you?
As a married couple you're asked to forgive but, never forget.
So with saying all of that it all depends on what it is you want, do you think that you will ever be able to forgive him and move on with your lives or will you take him back and throw it in his face throughout the relationship?
That is what you need to figure out before you decide anything at this moment, It will effect not just one life but two.
2006-06-07 10:10:33 · answer #1 · answered by Lil Angel 68 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have taken them back in the past UNTIL I just could not take it anymore then went and got my Own life
Then my husband of ??yrs did this and I still took Him back
You need to have a heart-to -heart with Yourself to see if He is really worth maybe getting hurt again
I Wish You All the Best
2006-06-07 10:02:16 · answer #2 · answered by stessie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, give him one more shot. Cheating is not always a deal-breaker in a relationship. Maybe he just slipped up ... it happens. Let him know that it'll be long time before you totally trust him again, and that if it happens again it's really over. Seems like the guy really cares for you and just made a bad judgement call. You love him, so fight to KEEP him.
2006-06-07 10:02:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him.. and you believe it won't happen again.. then i think it's okay to give him another chance... but just ONE. I was cheated on a few months ago, I forgave him for it, took him back and our bond has never been better since. Something like this can draw you closer.
If he has a track record of it though, I would not take him back. You do deserve better treatment.
2006-06-07 10:00:28 · answer #4 · answered by Cupid 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loved you he would never have cheated on you. AND he broke up with you?!? It sounds like he thought he found someone better and when it didn't work out he just wants to get back into a good/comfortable thing; be strong and don't give in. You deserve better, like someone who loves YOU and respects you.
2006-06-07 10:04:17 · answer #5 · answered by cauliflower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know...in this situation, you have to follow your heart with a level head. Easier said than done really. To me, everyone deserves a second chance but chances are that you will be paranoid about what he is doing, where he is going and who he will be with. If you can deal with the insecurities you are most likely going to face taking him back, then maybe it will work. I dare say that if you do take him back and he does it again...never take him back again. Fool me once, shame on you...Fool me twice, shame on me ...think about it.
2006-06-07 10:00:00 · answer #6 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, hell no. Spooky only gives ONE chance. If you eff it up, so long, sucker. If you take him back, you are, in effect, telling him that he can pretty much get away with anything. Sounds like his little 'fling' didn't work out; now he's trying to crawl back to a safe spot with you.
Dump him. A man will play on your emotions if he thinks it will get him where he wants to go.
2006-06-07 10:01:13 · answer #7 · answered by spookykid313 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe in cheating on you he realized that he messed up and that he loves you. maybe he realized that he wants to be a better man in order to keep the relationship. i say give him a chance but he cautious. why?? i've cheated and at one point i realized how much i loved my man and i decided to change for him and for us. it took a while to gain his trust back but after i did the relationship went great. sadly he moved away as he got a better job - i would not follow him - however, in him giving me a chance things worked out. give him a chance ...
2006-06-07 10:01:08 · answer #8 · answered by dvlndskyz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In some cases I do believe that people deserve a second chance. If u truly believe that he'll do right this time then take him back. But if u have any doubt then dont do it because your doubt is probably right.
2006-06-07 09:59:09 · answer #9 · answered by andrea lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been cheated on by a woman who kept trying to get me to take her back. I didn't, and never regretted that decision. Ultimately, it's your choice.
2006-06-07 10:05:34 · answer #10 · answered by Jimmythekid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋