...get over my obsessive self-confidence issues? I hate looking in a mirror and thinking "damn, I look good.." one minute and then the next, thinking that I'm the proverbial ugly duckling. It is beyond annoying. I'm in shape, i'm healthy and deep inside I know that I'm really pretty, but why do I always think so poorly about myself? It's beyond the point of asking boys if this dress makes my butt look big... Two years ago, it wasn't this bad, of course I'd have thoughts about it... but then I got into a relationship with I boy I loved and I felt great, amazing, beautiful, all day, everyday for two years. We broke it off about three months ago, and I'm fine, except for my "self-confidence" issues.
I hate it. Help?
2006-06-07 09:39:33 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Anytime you break up with someone it's a blow to your self esteem. I think you were probably getting a lot of validation from your ex and when that stopped, you stopped believing in yourself. Part of getting over this feeling is knowing that some people will validate you and some won't - but to be really free and confident, you have to learn to validate yourself. It's really hard to do - but the one thing that you have to start with is "I know what I know". This will eliminate a lot of self-doubt. You do know that you're pretty on the inside and the outside, so accept it and embrace it. Once you accept yourself and know yourself, your confidence will soar and there will be no stopping you.
2006-06-07 09:52:22 · answer #1 · answered by headshrinker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're still that same "great, amazing, beautiful person" you always were.........you've just let her be hidden a little. Tell yourself every day how pretty you are, and then go out somewhere.....guys will tell you, for sure! Wear something that is nice, and accents your best features.............and be prepred for the men to compliment you! Good Luck!....Beautiful!!
2006-06-07 16:46:25 · answer #2 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it extremely important to have a love and confidence in oneself, I suggest you seek physcological counciling...no kidding..I think you have issues that needs attention and counciling can provide what you need to feel better about yourself..good luck.
2006-06-07 16:46:27 · answer #3 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you could do is to get professional help. This is something that only they can fix.
2006-06-07 16:43:07 · answer #4 · answered by kellymarie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a very beautiful person, just keep believing in yourself...
2006-06-07 16:43:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you had any emotionally abusive relationships or past experiences that have contributed to your self-confidence?
2006-06-07 16:50:22 · answer #6 · answered by paL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your conscience is finally winning against your ego…
2006-06-07 16:45:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't look in the mirror at all
2006-06-07 16:42:57 · answer #8 · answered by sexmaster AJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋