My boyfriend made me abort, should i sue him for money or take him to jail?

Question

i dont want him to hate me!
what should i do?

Answer 1

He did not "Make" you do anything... you chose to have sex, knowing that sex could get you pregnant. When you became pregnant, he may have exerted a great deal of pressure and influence, but YOU signed the consent forms to have the procedure.
To terminate a pregnancy is a very painful choice and I'm very, very sorry that it's a decision you were faced with but you cannot make your boyfriend bear all the blame.
Call the doctor who did the procedure and ask for a referral to a counselor who specializes in helping with the issues of post-abortion depression... even women who know without any doubt that their choice was right often have trouble dealing with the physical and emotional aftermath.
Please seek help instead of seeking revenge.

Answer 2

How did he MAKE you do this? If you went into that room and let them perform a surgical procedure on your body and he was not standing over you, then I think you need to step back and take a real look at who may be responsible here. I am not saying that he was not ALSO responsible, and there is the possibility that you could sue in civil court and get part of your money back, but my problem stems from your comment "my boyfriend made me abort". Hmmmm...

Answer 3

Well, if you sue him or get him arrested, he'll hate you. Count on it.

This sort of depends on how he "made you abort." Did he talk you into going for an abortion? Punch you in the stomach? Knock you down by honest accident?

If you went for an abortion and are now regretting it, and want to find some way to blame it on him, you're out of luck. Legally, the choice was yours.

If he assaulted you and you lost the baby, well, you might as well have him arrested, because he's no one you'd want in your life anyway.

If it was an accident, understand that life is not fair, and just because something is not your fault does not automatically make it someone else's. Some things are just accidents.

Answer 4

How did he make you?? In the end you are the one that went through with it right?? And if you do decide to take action, don't worry about his feelings, if he's wrong he needs to know it and accept it. Besides, boyfriends don't last forever anyways. I'd sue, putting him in jail won't benefit anyone. Unless, of course, you don't want anything out of it, other than the satisfaction that he's getting what he deserves, then jail would be appropriate....lol..oh well i just didn't help any!

Answer 5

I am confused.

1) He "made you abort"? You mean he physically made you lose your child, or did he talk you into it and you went to the clinic or wherever and signed all the paperwork and got it done?

2) You are thinking about suing him for money and/or trying to send him to jail, but you "don't want him to hate you". This hurts my brain and I am not even going to discuss it further...

3) This guy knocked you up and then obviously didn't want to take any responsibility for his actions. And you are still with him???

Shug, I know you are upset and what happened sucks, but you are absolutely not mature enough to take care of a child. You are also not in the right emotional state, or mature enough, to be involved in ANY relationship right now, and especially not with this guy. Your boyfriend does not sound like a good person and you need to get him out of your life. Then you need to get counseling. Good luck!

Answer 6

By make you abort...do you mean he physically harmed you to cause a miscarriage or he pressured you to get an abortion at a clinic?

If he physically caused a miscarriage then yes, file criminal charges. If he pressured you or threatened you to get the abortion procedure it was still you in the end that had the procedure done. There were other alternatives and places to go for help. The blame in that case would be on you, not him.

I think mcclean and I were on the same wavelength...

Answer 7

Nothing. He didn't make you. No one can force you to do that. You may have done it because he wanted you to, but he did not force you. That was your decision. You have no right whatsoever to do anything to him. And by the way, it took both of you to make that poor innocent baby you killed, so both of you are responsible. And by the way, even if you did have a case, you can't sue someone who doesn't have money. What are you going to get from him? Nothing. You need to take responsibility for your own actions.

Answer 8

He can't 'make' you do anything. You signed the consent forms. You should try and work things out if you still love him-however if you feel like you will resent him forever, you should let him go and move on. I know sometimes you feel like they made you do something (I know firsthand how manipulative men can be and the damage it does). I also know you need a scapegoat to take away the guilt. At some point you will have to accept your role in it, and until you do, you will have no peace. I hope things get better. Blessed Be!

Answer 9

Unless he tied you down, drugged you, and performed the abortion himself (or paid an unethical doctor to do it) then he did not *make* you abort. Even if he threatened you, you still made the decision to go through with it. You can try to sue him, however, I doubt any attorney will take your case. You most likely don't have one.

Answer 10

Unless he held you down and did the job himself than you were the deciding factor. He may have convinced you, but that does not put him at fault. If you sue him you would lose.
Sex without protection is an invitation to pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. I work in public health and see the statistics. It's a dirty world out there.
It sounds like you may have wanted to become pregnant, but were to immature to deal with it. My suggestion is to wait for the real mate to come along and build you a nest with security and a future before you start reproducing and ruining yours and your offspring's lives.