A friend of my Husband and I from high school is getting married in July. We haven't been partculary close in the last few years, but we go back a long way and his parents are close to my in-laws. We will be attending the wedding, but I recently recieved a shower invite. I have never met the bride and would not know any of her friends or family. Are they just being polite in inviting me? I don't feel comfortable attending, so how I do I decline gracefully? Am I supposed to send a gift?
2006-06-07 09:09:25 · 9 answers · asked by Colly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Thank you so much for the invitation to your bridal shower, but am sorry that I will be unable to. (Your Husband's name) & I are looking forward to your upcoming wedding as we have made plans to attend this wonderful event.
Please accept this gift and my regrets.
Sincerely,
So & So
You can send something like a gift card to where ever she is registered and then take your wedding gift when you attend the nuptuals.
2006-06-07 09:18:27 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Texas 4 · 7⤊ 1⤋
I find that bizarre... I just had my bridal shower last weekend, and I only invited close friends. My mother-in-law to be was invited because I love her dearly, but she has asked me to send an invitation to my fiance's aunt (whom I've NEVER met) and I told her that I would feel awkward doing so because I didn't know her and I didn't send her an invitation. A wedding is one thing, but a shower is another.
Just R.S.V.P. that you cannot attend, you don't need an excuse or a reason. It would be appropriate to send a gift because you were invited, perhaps that's why you got the invite to begin with. If I were in your position, I'd send a "little something" along with a card and that'd be that.
Good luck to you.
2006-06-08 06:35:20 · answer #2 · answered by Fran 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can call and simply say that you can't attend. You don't need an excuse and it would be rude of them to ask for one. You may want to send a small gift, perhaps a $20 Victoria's Secret Gift Card, but remember that you will still have to send a gift for the wedding, too.
2006-06-07 09:24:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel comfortable you are free to not accept the invitation. If there is an RSVP card just send it back declined. Or if not just call them back and say you have other plans for the day. No you are not obligated to send them a gift but if you want to go ahead. Otherwise that I don't see the problem with just sending a card.
2006-06-07 09:15:14 · answer #4 · answered by butterflykisses427 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just RSVP that you have prior engagements. However, still send a gift, maybe a gift card to the place that they are registered. Remeber, shower gifts are smaller than the wedding gifts, so it doesn't have to be a huge gift.
2006-06-07 09:57:05 · answer #5 · answered by allison_t37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you RSVP and apologize for not being able to attend due to unforeseen circumstances, and still send a gift. That way you don't put yourself in a situation you would feel uncomfortable in, and it doesn't look like you didn't want to go..because you sent a gift.
2006-06-07 09:13:54 · answer #6 · answered by micheypoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, they are probably being polite in inviting you. Just rsvp and let them know you can't make it. Chances are they won't ask why. It is a nice gesture to send a gift, but not absolutely necessary.
2006-06-07 12:02:08 · answer #7 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a nice wedding shower card and write that you regretfully cannot make the date and you wish her a happy day. If you want throw a twenty dollar gift card in there for a store or restuarant in your area.
2006-06-07 09:16:42 · answer #8 · answered by in love with superman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say you have another engagement to attend to. You do not need to send a gift.
2006-06-07 09:13:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋