Alot of my friends have simply become turned off to being good to women because they see that every women complaining about their ex bf who was a jerk, who they screwed sideways for months and are still coming over when he calls.
2006-06-07 09:00:48 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I tell em straight out, im not a nice guy and if u dont like it too bad.
IT works.
2006-06-07 09:05:28 · update #1
To: Rays_Ur_Ways
Thanks! That is good advice.
2006-06-07 09:17:11 · update #2
basically thr r 3 types of girls.
1. bad girls who like bad guys
2. girls who like to change bad guys into gud guys
3. girls who like good guys.
The third category is very rare...
The first one is only good for a short term relationship unless both of 'em change or one of 'em changes the other.
And the 2nd one are the ones who like to change the bad guys into good guys .. this makes em feel secure and happy.
Be a bad guy first .. see if she likes u ... if she tries to change u .. shes the 2nd category if she doesnt shes the first... if she doesnt respond she is the third ...
if u know what kinda gal u want ... u'll now know how to get her ;) All the best !
2006-06-07 09:14:21 · answer #1 · answered by Rays_Ur_Ways 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Women have this need to fix things. I think most of us feel that if we are loving enough we will be loved correctly in return.
NO LOGIC IN THAT,, keep being a good man and eventually your going to find a woman that will reward you generously... there are some of us that know the difference and appreciate it with everything we have.
2006-06-07 09:04:26 · answer #2 · answered by yeller 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women have almost no will of their own. They are incapable of self-directed behavior. It is not necessary for you to be bad to women to get what you want. But it is necessary for you to initiate everything and control her at all times. The more direct you are and the more you tell a woman what you want from her and what to do (and are willing to back up your demand for obedience with real consequences), the more success you will have.
2006-06-07 09:06:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is pretty normal.
It is not really self esteem, though I am sure that many others will disagree. It is also not true that girls are attracted to abuse, or violence – most girls are really repelled by that sort of behavior.
A lot of it has to do with confidence. The “alpha male” type is invariably confident – though not usually in a terribly cocky way – and confidence is the sexiest thing a man can have. If a man is confident in himself and his abilities – chances are I can be too, but if even he is unsure of himself – then I should be much more wary of him as well.
Not only is confidence sexy, but lacking confidence guarantees failure. A confident guy will ask almost any girl out – and she may go out with him as a result (she may not but that is life). The guy who lacks confidence, who never asks the girl out – will never date her. I have lusted after a LOT of guys who I know liked me, but who never got up the courage to ask me out. If you saw the last Harry Potter film, or read the books, think about why Hermione(?) didn’t go to the dance with Harry – not because she did not want to go with Harry, she obviously wanted to go with Harry, but Harry was too afraid to ask her – and so she settled for going with the lout who DID have the balls to ask her.
Most girls, are terribly insecure and more than any thing else, want attention, they want to be wanted by men. The thing is, that very frequently the guys who are “alpha male” types – the ones who tend to be more violent, and abusive to others, are also the ones who are least afraid to express their desires for a girl. The “nice guys” the ones who “play by the rules” are more likely to believe that they need to “respect” a girl by not expressing and keeping his “desire” for a girl in check.
A part of this also has to do with the myth that girls don’t like sex – the “bad boy” doesn’t care if she doesn’t like sex, he is going to get his anyway – and in the process satisfy the girl. The “nice guy” will “respect” a girl and not satisfy either of them.
There are also a small number of girls who were abused as young girls who find the abuse to be attractive, in a very twisted, and unconscious sort of way – but that is a small number of girls, and I don’t think that is the population you are asking about.
2006-06-07 09:05:56 · answer #4 · answered by ***** 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most girls like guys who are jerks because they think of them as a "bad boy" and think that they can change them. But I like a guy who's sweet, not a jerk. So some girls I guess you can say.... have problems!! LOL! Good Luck!
2006-06-07 09:05:25 · answer #5 · answered by To sweet for 16 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i know, i hate it too. most women are just cheap. and they want more then a lasting relationship. Our world is very messed up, and women think it is ok to be cheap, and, like you said, sexually reward bad behaviour because "everyone else does it."
2006-06-07 09:07:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
cuz girls are really stupid and get caught up in thrills....girls dont come sobbing to the nice guy that got there before the jerk it should be embarrasing for you
2006-06-07 09:04:36 · answer #7 · answered by papasito 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Woman like men who can lay down the law, but yet be respectfull at the same time.We just like confident men and I guess "bad men" signifies confidence.I think.Men and woman shouldn't be too too too good.You'll definately get taken advantage of.
2006-06-07 09:04:31 · answer #8 · answered by La Belle 06 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Cuz bad boys are hot well bad girls are hot 2. But yeah good usually equals boring and I know lots of woman can put up with anything but that.
2006-06-07 09:03:08 · answer #9 · answered by Rika F 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
some "good men" are weak in bed. they need help to get the weiner to stand up.
maybe the "jerks" have no problem getting up for duty.
2006-06-12 20:29:04 · answer #10 · answered by leadbelly 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋