my boyfriend isn't a virgin and i just found that out yesterday but i am a virgin and i plan on staying a virgin until i'm married...it's sort of bothering me that he's not a virgin and now that i know he's so much more experienced than i am i'm afraid to get intimate with him...is this stupid or should i just not let it bother me? (if you wanted to know i'm 15 and he's 17) i'm also afraid that he's going to start to look somewhere else from what he's not getting from me...so i don't know what to do...also, he doesn't know i know that he's not a virgin...should i tell him that i know or should i keep it to myself? please no rude or mean answers...i could really use your help!?!?!
2006-06-07 08:23:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't rush into something you are not ready for because you can't get it back
2006-06-07 08:26:42 · answer #1 · answered by nikkipoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 15, you are still too young to be having sex. If your boyfriend is not a virgin, it really isn't that big a deal. Yes, it may tarnish your perception of him, but most guys that age aren't virgins. Now, if he lied to you and said he still was, then you need to ask him about it. (Was your informant reliable?) If you feel he is lying to you, then I would drop him. If someone lies about one thing, they will lie about anything. If he pressures you for sex or hints that he would "find someone else who will", drop him. That is NOT love and it is NOT respectful. If you are a virgin and want to stay that way til you are married---I applaud you! I had intended to do the same thing, but ended up sleeping with a guy when I was 19. I cannot tell you how much I regretted doing it later, when I found out what he was TRULY like. Stay strong and stay true to yourself! Lots of Love!
2006-06-07 08:34:19 · answer #2 · answered by poetess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold on to your goals - don't throw them away because of a guy. If he really cares, he will be there for you and not try to look elsewhere. I understand why it is bothering you because he is experienced and you are not but a person cant change what is in their past. Try not to let it bother you. It may be a good idea to discuss things with him and let him know where you stand and how you feel. Also don't believe everything you hear - its best to get the facts before jumping to conclusions.
2006-06-07 08:32:46 · answer #3 · answered by mysterynwaiting 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he didn't tell you it may not be true or he may not want people to know. Maybe he doesn't want to sleep with a lot of girls. I would try to forget about it. If you can ask him yourself if he is a virgin and then talk about it. Tell him how you feel about waiting. If he thinks that is ridiculous or thinks he cannot be in a non sexual relationship then you should break up with him. Don't let him force and or guilt you into doing anything you feel uncomfortable doing.
2006-06-07 08:31:11 · answer #4 · answered by ??????????? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay a virgin. Just because he gave his away doesn't mean you have to. Your on the right track. There are to many disease out there. Sex doesn't make a relationship. You will date many guys trust me. Your just getting started. So if that what he's looking for get rid of him. At that age boys have sex with a lot of different girls. I think it makes them feel like there "real man" . Hang in there girl... I'm proud that you sticking to you guns:-)
2006-06-07 08:28:33 · answer #5 · answered by geriyourstudent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your guns. Explain what your virginity means to you, if he doesn't understand where you are coming from he really isn't worth it. Also if he did go looking for it somewhere else, he isn't anywhere near as good a person as you believe him to be. Good luck honey.
2006-06-07 08:28:12 · answer #6 · answered by Gidget 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough spot dear. all i can tell you is that if he does pressure you, you need to talk to him. don't wait though. You may want to talk to him now. If he leaves you because of it you shouldn't be with him anyway. I commend you for wanting to stick to your beliefs. Not too many people these days would do that. Don't give in to pressure either. Talk to him about all of it. He should be able to understand unless the only thing he really wants is sex.
2006-06-07 08:28:57 · answer #7 · answered by prof56 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all i would keep it to yourselff that you know about him. second of all you might want to thinkit over is he the one for you? if you do not give it to him and he goes somewhere else he really dosen't love you, anyway. it would be to bad if you gave up your virgin soul to him if he is just playing games with you.
2006-06-07 08:31:26 · answer #8 · answered by wolfelady692003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since hes not a virgin u have a very high chance of gettin aids from him and you should find someone else instead of him
2006-06-07 08:27:39 · answer #9 · answered by preggowoman08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont let him take advantage of you. Stick to your morals
2006-06-07 08:26:42 · answer #10 · answered by Keith L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋