questions about 17 yr old runaways in nys (suffolk)?

Question

im 17 yrs old, after closely thinking, i wish to move in with a friend against my parents will. im trying to figure out the legal rammifications of it and what legal actions my parents can take. Can they make me loose my job? do i loose my schooling? (if i stay in the same town) all insurance coverage is gone? right? what can they take me to court with? she wants to call the cops on me... what can they do, what would they do (under the curcumstances that i have a perfect record and no drug abuse)
Am i even able (legaly) to run away if there is no home issues that can be brought up in court (all based on personal descrepencies, no abuse, ect.).

thank you for your answers. if you are able to support your answer with websites that will help me i would appreciate it greatly. please dont put oppinions (im just looking for facts)

ty again

in responce to answers

1: legaly if they trried to get rid of education can they?

2: that isnt true... i asked for no oppinions, thanks anyway. i know for a fact that at 17 you can run away against your parrents will

3: thanks for the opinion. but it will not ruin our relationship, its just a matter of controll issues. she wishes to run my life more than i get oppertunities. i have put much thought in it and she claims with out knowing that if i move out she will try her best to force me to move back in by taking away all sources of income and my schooling. we will still keep our personal relationship... she needs me more than i need her acting like that to me

Answer 1

I know you didnt ask for opinions, but I think in this case it is important that someone mention to you that you are making a huge mistake to take this course of action. There is no situation that cannt be resolved through legal channels, and your family is yours for life, you cannot remove them. As permanent as friends seem, they come and go. Blood is for life and any decision you make like this is going to be something you come to regret in the future.

Wether you regret it because of the effects that it has on your life, or the effects that it has on your relationship with your family, or both, this is the kind of choice that will be difficult to repair.

I would strongly recommend you reconsider.

(Also, dont take legal advice from anyone on here. Contact a lawyer, do not listen to any of the things people here claim.)

Edit**

I definitely appreciate your point of view, having been 17 myself, a seemingly long long time ago, I went through similiar issues as yourself (as Im sure all teenagers have.)

Dont try and justify yourself to us, we do not know you and we do not know your specific situations. However, ask yourself this : If my daugther wanted to do this to me, how would it make me feel? Would I feel like a failure as a mother? If I knew that my daugther was going to 'run away' if I stick to my rules, why would I still stick to them anyways?

What you might be able to come to understand is that sometimes parents *must* do things that their children do not appreciate or understand, because it is what is --RIGHT--. It never feels that way as a teenager, but if you look at friends and acquaintances around your age, which ones are better off and have a happier life? The ones where the parents are strict and try to lead their children on the right path? Or the ones where parents are loose and allow their children to drift from point to point without direction?

Invariably, if you're honest with yourself, you must acknowledge that those children and teenagers that have parents that support, direct, and help are better off than those that have parents that are unwilling or unable to do those things. Then, hopefully, what you will begin to see is that there are reasons behind what your mother is doing, and these reasons are intended to only be for your good, not her own. She does them at the risk of alienating and losing you, but strives to do what is right because as a parent she must.

Anyways, I didnt mean to ramble on so long, but I hope you'll reconsider this decision because once followed it is a very difficult one to recover from.

Answer 2

Honey you can go to court yourself and get emmancipation from your family. They are still legally responsible for your actions until youre 18. I don't have websites for you because I am in another state, federally though the law is about the same. Try talking to an attorney. Most first time counsels are free. Your family can make your life tough but you should not lose your job if you are showing up for work on time etc... you may want to let your boss in on what is going on just to be safe. You can take out a peace order if your mother harasses yu at work. Just know that parents usually interfere because they really love you and have a hell of a way of showing it. She isn't all bad. She raised you...

Answer 3

Please NOTE: I make this response based on the description of your situation, at the time of my response ...

So, you think you are having it rough? May I suggest that you compare your life & problems to most young people's reality?:

The Problems of Children :
An Ongoing Search for Solutions
Children Deserve to be Wanted & Loved
The Solution at Last!
Help for Young People
Rights of the Child http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2000/12/8/article_01.htm

CHILDREN - Are They Growing Up Too Fast? : When Childhood Is: Lost; Rushed; Cherished
http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2003/4/22/article_01.htm

May I suggest that you do a search on the Web site where all of these articles are found ... Or go to the index & view all the available-listed articles ... There are several about family life, and parenting, all kinds of issues you might be facing. Everything is Bible-based. You might be able to ask your mother to read through one or more of them together with you. Utilize the Scripture references for best effect.

If you can't maintain a good relationship with your Mom, what makes you think you won't fail at other relationships? That's what you'd be setting yourself up for, whether you realize it or not. Just from what you've said, it sounds like you're planning to 'jump ship', when it isn't even in any danger!
You're at an excitable time in your life. If there's no real danger in staying, you truly don't have much longer to wait for legal age ... I know for a fact that this next article is extremely helpful, to those who are open to help:

Youths--LET Your Parents HELP You Guard Your Heart! :
Why Obey Your Parents?
Attraction to the Opposite Sex
The Persuasive Power of Your Peers
Worthy of Honor
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2004/10/15/article_01.htm

Usually, parents try to protect their kids, but kids misunderstand & take offenseAre you just wanting to run away due to impatience, and not getting your own way?. Isn't that a sign of immaturity? Unfortunately, reaching legal age does not guarantee that a person is capable of making responsible decisions. Are you reasonable enough to admit that you're thinking is childish? And to act appropriately? Have you so far? ... Or are you foolish enough to make a mess of your life? ...

Please don't turn your back on your mom's love!
Learn to be realistic. Don't expect too much from anyone ... including your mum. If you do, you doom them to failure (in your own eyes, at least), even when they really have but doe their best. What kind of love is that? Is it fair to them?

I'm hoping that you'll think it over very carefully. Only immature individuals take offense when told the truth about themselves. You came here asking people to help you do something that's both unwise & unloving ... Why would you want to involve others in something like that?

Why Is It So Hard to Apologize?
...... Apologizing--A Key to Making Peace
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2002/11/1/article_01.htm

"Make sure of all things; hold fast to what is fine." (1Th 5:21)

Answer 4

If you are that unhappy and do not get along with your parents, get emancipated and it will work out later. If you no longer want to stay with your parents and they treat you unfairly or do anything out of the ordinary, go file for emancipation. you can do that much. but, make sure that is what you want to do. Don't run away cause they can bring you home if they fight bad enough. if you were 18, that would be a different story and they couldn't do anything.

Answer 5

in england right? says here you are legally an adult & can do what you want. school, healthcare & employment are out of their control. they may be looking out for you in ways you cant see at 17. you seem well minded but 17 is actually very young though it doesnt seem it now. the last 5 years have been an eye opener. i see things so differently than when i was 17.

Answer 6

I'm sorry to hear you are in this position. I wish you the very best of luck in life.

At 17, it's unlikely that the cops will do anything to you. You should not lose your job and you should continue with your education. Insurance coverage depends on the policy language.

Answer 7

there is not any longer a great age distinction between 14 and 17, yet there's a huge adulthood distinction. that is not important how mature you're on your age, or how immature he's for his. 14 and 17 are purely on diverse planets. At 14 you do not have any person privileges, in view which you're no longer something extra effective than a toddler. At 17 you may force, artwork, pay taxes, marry and connect the protection rigidity with parental consent. In some months he would be an person. you're a lot extra a toddler than person and he's lots extra person than toddler. i understand that is hard, yet courting in teenaged years are perplexing. human beings replace and mature at diverse fees, making great age communities difficult in this era. sometimes even courting somebody a year older or youthful is purely too a lot top now. no longer because of the fact of age gaps, yet because of the fact on the adulthood stages. The age of consent in maximum aspects is sixteen. Him being 17 and you being 14 creates a solid conflict. If anyone found out he grew to become into even spanking your yet, making out with you, or doing something sexual it may be the top for him. And in my view i do no longer think of that is honest in a courting . Relationships are all approximately being waiting to be intimate and close to to a lover, consequently that is suited to this component in criminal a while that way you may accomplish that. you do no longer choose to wreck his life over this. So my suggestion in case you relatively love one yet another, wait a year till you're sixteen. I recommend if that is relatively going to artwork out it is going to once you're extra mature and criminal. I won't leap to the top that he's once you for intercourse, yet he's with you for a courting. And with relationships come sexual thoughts and rigidity to fill those needs. So it is going to ensue (properly out of your paragraph which contain oral intercourse that is already occurring) in spite of the undeniable fact that that is purely no longer criminal.

Answer 8

Try to work things out with your parents.

Answer 9

Your a minor and your parnets can legally bring you home