my son will be 21 in 6 mos, my hubby and i don't drink, should we allow him to drink in the house?

Answer 1

Has he asked you for permission? Has this issue ever come up in the last few days?

If he is a decent guy, he already knows the rules, and would follow them, ie he won't even think of drinking at home, considering its your house and you haven't allowed him to drink there for 21 years. His turning 21 doesn't change his family's attitude towards booze.

But yes,I agree that he might drink out, with his friends, but that's his problem.He has to make sure thathe doesn't drive when he's drunk, and at 21, he should know that. You don't have to be overly concerned about that.

And I don't see the point of disturbing your peace of mind ( and peace of your household) over something like that. If you dislike alcohol, and its your own house, he should follow the rules. And some rules are not made to be broken. He can always drink elsewhere.

But What's all this talk about cutting the apronstrings and throwing him out of the house? Are people answering this question weird or am I the only one attached to my parents?Oh but then, Only in Western Cultures are filial ties so weak, that they break in a decade or two.Thank God I am not American... or British... or European or... whatever these people are.

Answer 2

I feel that if he's still under your care and living at home, he has to abide by your rules and and if you don't drink, he'll be alright. I just turned 21 and I'm a girl. Just out of respect for my mom, I live in my own house but I'll put away all the drinks I've had so she want see them. I don't have to hide because it's my house but I respect her. You should make your son give you that same respect. While you're at it, unless he's in school full time, it's no reason he should be living in the house with you still. He's a man and it's harder out here for women and I did it. so can he.

Answer 3

Are you against drinking?
If so - he should respect the rules of YOUR house.

If you were having some friends over and somebody brought wine would you be uptight about that? If so - then again - he should respect the rules of YOUR home.

Are you and/or your husband recovering alcoholics? If so, then Jr. is old enough to know the truth, and to be told that alcohol is not welcomed in that house and he should be careful with his own consumption.

If alcohol doesn't reallly bother you, it's just that you do not drink, then I don't see the problem of him having a drink. But explain you expect him not be DRUNK in YOUR home.

He should respect your rules. And let him know that when he is paying his own way in life, he can make his own rules for his home.

Answer 4

Well regardless of what you say he is still going to drink...(Im just being honest)...so in my opinion you might as well let him drink in your house..think of the possibilities if he drinks outside of your house and the consequences...Things could get out of hand meaning what if he drinks too much? But ultimately it is your house you set the rules and as long as hes living under your roof he should follow your rules. Or just AGREE on something between the three of you, making sure you are all on the same page.

Answer 5

Are you uncomfortable with the issue? I think as long as it's done in moderation, it shouldn't be a problem. Why does he want to drink anyway? is it just cause he's getting older, or for the interest in something new.

If you want a tasteful way to do it, why don't you try a wine drinking class? it could teach you something nice.

I think your house, your rules, but then it leads to him drinking out where do you'd know what's going on, if that works for you, so be it.

Answer 6

Its your kid and your house. If you have a rule that there is no drinking in your house then there you go. BUT, in my opinion wouldn't you feel better if he was drinking in yourhouse where he is safe then out at some bar? Keep in mind that he might say someone else is driving him home, but he probably is the one driving.

Answer 7

If you don't have much of a problem with him drinking, just make it clear to him that it's fine as long as he doesn't get so drunk he can't stand up (like maybe a limit to a regular sized can / bottle of beer or cider or one glass of wine at dinner time, etc)...... and if he makes a regular habit of getting so drunk he's falling over the furniture / acting like a tw*t then he's out of the house on his a**.

Answer 8

As long as he drinks in moderation and isn't getting hammered every night then I would say it was ok.
It is still your house, and adult or not he still needs to abide by your house rules.

By the way, I think it is perfectly ok for your son to still be living at home with you. Why people feel they can judge is beyond me.

Answer 9

no this invites parties and such. your house will be a mess and then he might bring his girlfriend over and then he has too much to drink and ..... well you get the idea.
im not saying your son is irrisponsible or is a sex adict. but alcahol does things to your head

maby a can of bear or a glass of wine at get togeathers with your family every now and then but no guzzleing down 12 packs

Answer 10

IF you don't approve of drinking, then no.Why compromise your morals and send the message to your son its ok if he wants too? When you may not even approve? Also are you willing to take on the responsibilty of possibly one of your sons friends being involved in an accident after the party? I don't think I would allow it.