Why do men play these games????????

Question

I was dating a man in the military for about 3 weeks. Everything was going great until yesterday when he sent me an EMAIL saying that his soon-to-be ex wife called him and said she is getting kicked out of her boyfriend's house (her and the kids) and has no where to go and no money. He felt "obligated" to help her so he dumps me and goes back to her. He told me how much he really likes me and we spent a lot of time together. He said he hated hurting me but MUST be there for her. Is it just me, or is she playing games with him, dangling him and using him? I know I'm better off without him if he is capable of doing that but my question is WHY was it so easy to dump me and be such a pu$$y??? Writing all this in an email not even to my face??? Do men know HOW to be a man???

Answer 1

She is playing games with him and he is letting her.he may really have liked you and did not want to talk to you in person to tell you.but doing it over the e-mail that is scandless.some men do not know how to be a man.they think with the wrong head and do not care about how women feel.

Answer 2

no hun they don't have a clue on what it's like to be a man because nobody has taught them how. They are very stupid and immature when it comes to love. They feel that love will come and go and they are right but real love won't. They will or he will realize when she leaves him again for someone else. Don't let him get to you because your right you are better off without him no how much pain you are in right now. You will one day find a pecfect man and be the happiest girl around. I wish you the best of luck with the pu$$y men around here.

Answer 3

Oh Wow! Talk about the coward's way out!
I'm so very sorry that you had that happen to you!
Unfortunately, some men are not really men at all...they are little boys in disguise.
The trick is in learning how to distinguish between the two...and believe me, it's no easy task!
One day you'll find a real man who will love and cherish you beyond all others...and I'm crossing my fingers and wishing for it to be sooner rather than later!
Good luck Sweetie! Don't worry----that man wasn't good enough for you anyway!

Answer 4

Some one who has children with another person IS obligated to them. You need to think about this for a minute...they dated, they got married, they had children, they were in love and had a commitment. You had 3 weeks together, a few booty calls, some exciting feelings that were just starting up. of course, he is going to help her out. He doesn;t want his kids to be homeless.

Plus, maybe you ask a lot of whiny questions, the tone of your story sure seems like that. sorry if that hurts, but , really read it out loud and see if you don;t agree.

Answer 5

I think you love him.But you didnt explain how you both met,who made first move?and the response of the other.I assume he never told you about his children,if not you would have discovered how he loved or hated them.These issues are important.However,ALL MEN ARE NOT LIKE THAT.There is every possibility that the guy may still like you,but the circumstance and manner the "ex" called could determine why the man acted that way. (I)Could be they shared a secret the "ex" may have used to threaten him.(And for a 3 weeks old relationship it wouldnt have been that possible for him to devulge such information to you. (2) You may have raised an argument about his person in a way that he never liked which "ex" never did before.(Thereby giving room for him to give attention to "ex" whom he may believe is still a nice woman.

All these however do no justify the breaking of a heart that loves him in a manner he did.My advice to you is NEVER SHUT YOUR DOOR ON HIM.You may have opportunity to properly direct his sence of reasoning.Take it easy ok.

Answer 6

he could have easily drove her to a friends house to stay or one of her parents or even to a local shelter i know he wanted to make sure the welfare of his children were ok and he could have also said i am taking tthe children to live with me while you get your life together, but he did not have to get back with her as an attempt to make sure his children are ok, there are some ex wives who will always call their ex-husbands at the first sign of trouble they know they care about their children and will be there for them and these ex wives tend to also use the children against them. there is a way to still take care of his children without rekindling the relationship with the mother, alot of these ex wifes tend to use the children as a pawn as to why they need to be in a relationship again by saying it'd be in the best interest of the children or you'll get to see them everday now...ect it is best for you to move on and find someone who will love you for you and that doesnt have any children or ex wifes in their past because once you have kids by someone you're stuck with that person for life and the situation has already ruined a relationship for you just make a better choice next time...good luck

Answer 7

this guy is an a**hole. if he really liked u then he wouldn't have been able to break up with u soo easily especially in an e-mail. on the other hand. he is really sweet cuz he felt obligated to his former wife and kids. he stood up and took responsiblity for his first family. he's an a**hole 2 u but a sweetheart to his former wife. oh about the guys knowing how to be a guy question...guys usually reach maturity by age 25 if their lucky. LOL.

Answer 8

You're just dating a man with no spine; he thinks he's being a good man but he's really just being an easy mark. The girl will always be able to take advantage of him. Lose that zero, get a hero, three snaps in a Z, etc. etc.

Answer 9

Oh come on. Women play games too. And women are a hell of a lot better at it.

Chances are he fabricated some of the details about this to cover his backside... and try not to make you feel quite as used as you otherwise might have.

He's just a schmuck. Don't judge everybody based on it.

Answer 10

Sounds to me like the soon-to-be-ex, was never to be an ex. They think they're so great. I can't understand why they act like they don't have feelings. They need to use the North head more to think with.