2006-06-07 07:27:50 · 26 answers · asked by Perfect Specimen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes, you are wrong. I was engaged at 20 and married at 22. I am now 25 and we are going strong.
A lot of people who are older than 25 and naive and are just as likely to get divorced.
You should only get married if you are absolutely sure you are ready to, no matter the age.
2006-06-07 07:32:15 · answer #1 · answered by WithLoveMaura 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell you why there is divorce. It is NOT because people get married young, it is because people today, young and old do not understand what commitment means, They have not learned to be commited to a spouse. So...when times get rough or someone else comes along, the leave their spouse because they have not learned what commitment means. It has nothing to do with age...age is irelevent. Obviously, depending on the person i would not encourage an 18 year old to get married just yet...that is a bit too young. But i think we have to look beyond age and we have to look at the person...how mature are they, do they understand commitment, do they have a good knowledge of marriage and what it involves and can they deal with issues well. As long as they are able to do all these things and they have learned what it means to be commited, than regardless of their age, they should get married.
I don't know what you sources are for what you have said, but it's just not true. I hope this made sense.
2006-06-07 17:05:00 · answer #2 · answered by mountaingirl88 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are very wrong indeed. Age has nothing to do with the success of a marriage. There are people who are married over 20 years before they realize they werent meant to be together. My mom and dad married when mom was 18 and dad was 21 and have been married 28 years. I married at 19 and my husband was 21. we have only been married for just over a year, but we hardly consider ourselves to have been naive. we didn't rush into it or anything. we were ready to make the commitment and trust me, we've been through tough times with more to come, but we never give up on eachother. Its about knowing what you want and finding it in eachother.
2006-06-07 17:29:47 · answer #3 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Statistically you are right about the naivety of young couples, but you are wrong to make such a blanket statement like that.
My parents got married when they were 17 and 18. They have been married for 33 years now.
My sister got married when she was 18 and her fiance was 21. They have been married for eight years now. She is now 26.
It isn't the age, it is the people getting married. I am sure that there are plenty of couples that get married over the age of 25 that are naive that get divorced. Get over the age thing, and stop putting such general statements up about marriage.
The comment about "certainty for divorce" is wrong. Their is no "inevitability" for divorce. If you want to know statistics you can contact me, but they should be available to you. If there was certainty of divorce, no one would be married. You used the wrong word. It should be more like "higher likeliness" or "a stronger possibility".
You are misleading younger answerer's.
2006-06-07 15:06:02 · answer #4 · answered by irishcreaminator83 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ha, your wrong. My parents married when my mom was 23 and my dad was 24. This July they will celebrate their 29 anniversary. Sure they waited 7 years to have kids but that doesn't matter. My financee's parents married at 24 and 27 and had a kid within the year and are still together for 21 years. I personally believe that it all depends on the couple. You must remember that marriage takes work to keep together as does any relationship.
2006-06-07 17:27:41 · answer #5 · answered by Leslie N 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that, in general, age has anything to do with naivety. It depends on each individual as to "certainty for divorce." There are some 30+ year olds that are too naive for marriage. There are some 18 year olds that are prepared for life with someone. It just depends on the person.
While I do hesitate when someone is under 20 and want to get married -- I know 18 - 23 were years of HUGE change for me as a person in regards to my beliefs, etc. -- I know that it might be right for them. Wish them luck and support them through their marriage.
2006-06-07 14:45:46 · answer #6 · answered by dsc1110 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are wrong..Anyone can get a divorce.. younge or old.. If you are madly in love then it doesnt matter the age of either of you two.. for example.. my husband and I just recently got married March 25th, he is 36 and I am 19. I was 18 when i got married.. and I look foward to spending the rest of my life with him
2006-06-07 14:37:55 · answer #7 · answered by Ann L 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's like the saying "Age doesn't matter once you're in love" it's in its way the same deal in this case. I mean, a person can me as naive at age 30 as a person of 17. It's all really the psychological/mental development someone had in their life time and how they act at BIG things in life.
My answer to your question would be 50/50 meaning yeah you're wrong and no you're not.
2006-06-07 20:54:29 · answer #8 · answered by az-girl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's not necessarily true. There are just as many cases of naive people over 25 who get divorced.
2006-06-07 14:34:14 · answer #9 · answered by coco 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only one being naive is you for asking this question. Getting married under 25 has nothing to do with getting divorced!
2006-06-08 12:25:43 · answer #10 · answered by farmergyrl23 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋