How do your spank your kids? How did your parents spank you?

Question

details, please

Answer 1

My mother used her hands.

My father used his belt.

My grandparents used a wooden spoon.

I always deserved it and I rarely repeated what caused it in the first place.

Time outs, groundings, talking to me, and taking toys away had no effect on me and I believe a lack of discipline is responsible for most crime today.

Answer 2

I use anything that is handy. Usually i will ask them to pick it up and give it to me first. "Like give me that hanger" (only the plastic kind you get from toddler clothes) Usually i give them 1 or 2 licks in the palm. Only in extreme situations and only at home. So usually in public places my two (4 yr old and 6 yr old) are well behaved.

Well unless they have had a lot of sweets. I feel that if they have had too much sugar and they are acting up it is my fault and they don't get a spanking.

My parents didn't have to spank me that much. I was a good child, now my sister used to get spankings with my mothers comb all the time.

Answer 3

Well I'm a woman that has raised FIVE kids.
So, when the law says don't spank.. I spank anyways, how does a kid learn if you don't?

As for spankings myself as a kid, I don't remember ever getting one, I was seriously a good kid, I never wanted to make my mother angry.

As for spanking a kid/child.. there IS wrong ways and right ways to do so. Warning them that they will get a spanking, and never following through with the threat.. don't work, it only makes you a lier, and they get more out of control. WArning them they will get a spanking when their father returns home.. will not put fear in them.. cause 1. by the time he gets home, they forgot why they get it.
2. more then likely the father will NOT spank them

Never spank out of anger.. that easily becomes child abuse. count to ten, leave the room, and if you think you still should spank your child, then TELL THEM you are going to spank them, so they remember not to do that again 'running out in the middle of the road' is examples.
Then DO IT.
Hug them after when you are both calm, and tell them you love them, and you spanked them cause you feel they need to learn.

If you are out in public,and you have fear that someone will report you 'I never did' they were not the one raising my kids! but if you did.. and your child was acting up.. tell them calmly they will get a spanking .. DO NOT tell them they will get a spanking when they get home.. they will have forgotten about it by then.
give one swift smack on the butt right then and there, in front of everyone.. who cares? let them try to do something. some will quietly thank you in their head for FINALLY stopping that annoying kid.

so remember,never spank out of anger, count to ten... and hug after. Also, a spanking is not a beating, a spanking is not pulling down pants.. one swift one on the rear is PLENTY.

Answer 4

Proverbs says if you love your kids you'll spank them. Me and my siblings were spanked as kids--with belts, wooden spoons, plastic jump ropes, and an old piece of flooring.

Spanking really works too. I was in charge of a children's Christmas play last year and it was painfully obvious which kids' parents spanked them and which ones did not. The ones who were spanked were so much better behaved than the ones who were not.

Answer 5

My parents didn't really spank me, it was kinda like a free for all hitting spree! LOL.. as long as I was out of arms reach I was ok! Dodging the bullet I used to call it. But I have a 20 month old son and I RARELY spank him. I wouldn't even call it spanking. I pop his butt when he is being REALLY BAD... and that is only when his "time out" chair doesn't work. Which is normally does, but sometimes if he is bad enough I pop him (he can't feel a thing with the thick diaper) and I firmly say "no" and after about 4 or 5 times... he gets it! But remember, spanking is ok as long as you explain to your child what they did wrong. Because if you just spank and they don't know what they did.. they are going to keep doing it, and spanking will no lonfer be a punishment to them, they will begin to rebel after that. I always explain to my son (in simple words) what he did wrong, and why I didn't like him doing it and that "it doesn't make mommy happy". I always warm him once and tell him the next time he does it he is going to time out. And when he does it again, I sit him in time out (I have a certain "time-out" chair that he only sits in for being bad for 60 seconds) I count out loud and everytime he gets up I start counting all over. ANd when the punishment is over, I bend down in front of him, and talk to him calmly and tell him what he did wrong and I make him hug me, so he understands I am not mad at him but only at his actions.. And it works for me! I hope this helps..

Answer 6

I was never spanked as a child. But I think if I would have been I wouldn't have gotten in the trouble I did.

And as for my own childred, I spanked them each 1 time when they were kid's. And boy did I ahte doing it.

Answer 7

When I was a toddler I was spanked (hand) --- as I got older I had the dreaded wash the dishes --- when I say wash dishes I mean every dish in the house(we had a lot) - washed by hand - rinsed, dried and put away! I only had to do that once --- I learned fast !

Answer 8

in my opinion every situation is different. different kids respond differently to different types of punishment. myself......my mama spanked me. SPANKED me, not beat me. there is a difference. she made me bend over the bed and she swung the belt about 10 good times across my butt. not my back, not my arms, she did get my legs a couple of times, but she got my attention too. I have no emotional scares and i love my mama very much. she became my best friend as grew into an adult. As for my child, time out, taking toys away, grounding, etc. did not do any good w/him either. 10 good swings across his underwear covered behind got his attention also. each child is different. ultimately you have to figure out what works best for y'all. I would like to reiterate........there is a difference between spanking and beating. granted, it will hurt your feelings too or it did mine. i would spank him in my bedroom so his room would still be his safe haven. but when he went to his room i would stay in mine and i cried. the point is, we, as parents are obligated to do what is best for our children. teach them respect and disipline. that is what is wrong with the generation growing up now. state and government has parents scared to be strong and stand up as the parent so kids are running over parents, teachers, and anyone else they choose. good luck and it is ok if you cry too.

Answer 9

I give warning swats where I go over and swat them 5 times on the clothed butt on the seating area so they know to stop. The other spankings are over my knee bare bottomed and with my hand, hairbrush, wooden spoon, or paddle.

Answer 10

well let's see...I was spanked with a belt, shoe, flyswatter, hand, wooden spoon, plastic spoon, wet towel, telephone cord, and a whole bunch of other stuff,
just remember not to discipline them in public, expecially in a McDonnalds, some lady learned that the hard way

Answer 11

My parents used a belt or a wooden spoon.

My Dad used a big black paddle on my Mom once. At least I think it was my Dad. It was hard to tell since he was wearing a leather mask with a zipper for the mouth.