Hi,My brother was in love with a girl for the last 7years,she was from different religion,but still they were in true love.So,i never have problem marrying a guy from other religion if it is true love4me.But when they decided2 marry,just b4 2months she said she doesnt love him(my bro)as their relation was going on 4 last 7yrs & it was ENOUGH!i saw my bro crying 4 her,I love my brother very much,it was very tough 4me to go thru this,(as i went with them so many times,never thought it could happend one day)it happend 10months ago,now everything is fine,But there's my problem,Now i cant think about LOVE,Now i dont believe in love.i'll go 4 arrange marriage,I think if i ever go for love marriage,my bro will be very hurt while thinking his relationship doesnt workout.& I dont want to see my brother Unhappy at any cost,So,i ve taken this decision,So friends i want to know 'my this decision is right or wrong?pls help as i need ur help.pls
2006-06-07 06:48:24 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No. Arrange marriages never work. I mean only you know your true love. Why be miserable just to keep someone happy. That sucks and its not healthy. Yeah your brother is hurt. But in time he'll move on.He should be happy just to see you happy. Don't put your happiness for granted just to make someone else happy.
And when you do find that special someone. go with your heart. stop comparing your relationships with your brothers. Just cause it did not work out for him does not mean the same thing is going to happen to you
2006-06-17 05:47:04 · answer #1 · answered by you_me_set 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Baby you can't live your life based on what happened to your brother. Love does hurt sometimes. Given time to heal you will find out that most people would not have traded the hurt for never having the relationship. When someone who was truly in love gets divorced it is worse than a death of a spouse, because the person is still alive and you still love them. (Sometimes for life) Guess what... an arranged marriage can end up the same way. You are just trading for different problems. You may end up loving your arranged wife as much as your brother loved his love wife. It's hard to be around another person for a long committed time and not find good things in them. Whatever you decide, please do not be in a hurry. Take your time and remember it takes a long time to get over being in love and losing. The risk is worth it my friend. Dont cheat yourself. If you need to talk you may e-mail me through this medium. Nana
2006-06-20 16:38:45 · answer #2 · answered by nanawnuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody should be forced into a marriage especially if you don't love the person. I've heard that some cultures beleive that love will only come after marriage, but I'd say that's not true love... That's just learning to love the person because you have no other option.
Maybe you should speak to your brother about it, it could help.
And don't go looking for love, love will come to you when you're ready and there's no need to be afraid of love, you'll be over it before you know it. =)
Hope this helped.
2006-06-20 00:03:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure that you are looking at everything the way you should be. I really think you should consider everything before you make your final decision. I am not saying that an arrange marriage won't work or is bad, I'm just saying that finding that special someone is awesome and when you are truely happy with the one you love and you just want to wake up every day so you can see him/her then you know it is right. I hope that you can find happiness in whatever you choose, but please, don't make a decision based on the fact that you don't want your brother mad. He will be happy for you, I'm sure.
2006-06-17 13:14:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, it's not right to judge love on the basis of someone else's experience, no matter how close we are to that person. Nor are we responsible for making others happy or not, taking his/her feelings into consideration is very thoughtful on your part. In this instance, it's your feelings, thoughts, and belief that are being considered and challenged. If I can make a suggestion here that might be of help in making the final decision. Do a pro and con list. Write down on paper everything you've ever seen about love e.g. mom and dad, brothers and sisters, friends and other relationships. Write every good thing about it. Then, write every thing negative about love. And finally, ask yourself if making a hasty decision based on what someone else goes through is fair to you.
2006-06-18 13:29:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anita B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't marry for real love (you know what that is in your heart) then the marriage won't last and you'll feel worse than if you hadn't done it at all. You can love your brother, but you must live for YOU. Don't go for the arranged marriage; you'll be unhappy. You should be a happy and complete person in order to fully care for/about your brother. He'd want the best for you.
2006-06-07 06:54:33 · answer #6 · answered by wondering 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should not go for it! If you get out to explore the world a little or even more in your home town I think you will find a true love. It would be better then a aranged marriage because in a aranged marriae you don't love that person and you will be lonley for a long time!
2006-06-18 14:50:29 · answer #7 · answered by Jessie L. C. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you won't have the same fate like your brother. he was unfortunately that his relationship didn't last probably the difference of religious belief was the main reason for the break up. with you, you may find love along the way, be it that you found love or you intend to go with arrange marriage, you couldn't say if it'll make your life perfect.
love can make stars and galaxies so real...but in reality, you have all the choice to make love work
2006-06-07 07:29:16 · answer #8 · answered by curiosity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I to am very close to my brother but your brother's life has only some what of abearing on your own actually i think that you should really love some one before you marry them do you think that an arranged marriage will work if there is no love? I think not!!
2006-06-20 17:01:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never take an arranged marriage. You will most likely end up miserable. Marry for love and don't worry over your brother. He will be fine in awhile.
2006-06-18 19:31:58 · answer #10 · answered by busybody12 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋