is spoiling your kid to much is it wrong?

Question

i was just wondering because my wife is always on my *** about this i just want my son to have nice things in life to where i never had when i was growing up as a kid.

Answer 1

I have read alot of great advice on here on both sides.As a mother of 2 children and a step son,I have some experience.My current husband spoils the **** out of his son but he is basically a very well mannered boy.That is because his father has instilled in him since a very young age the importance of school,manners, and sharing.He can occasionally be a little brat,but that is more an issue of discipline.i believe that our children should be given the best in life as long as it's not putting you into debt.But,at the same time I feel that in order for the child to receive a toy or whatever it is he/she wants the parent should give them some sort of chore or duty to do.Or even telling them after you do your homework and it's done thoroughly we can discuss it.a child should realize at a young age that money or "things" don't grow on trees.They have to be worked for and deserved.I find that depending on the childs age making a little chore list for them and giving them an allowance maybe evn opening a bank account together is a good start.Children have to be taught the value of money and that in order for you the parent to buy these things for him/her you had to work quite a few hours to get the money to buy them.To reiterate whats already been said,there is a difference between spoiling your child and giving them the best.i.e best school,quality clothing,good food etcc.try teaching your son about the value of money and how to earn some of the things you want to give him.Good luck and maybe show your wife some of these answers.

Answer 2

Yes, it is wrong. I know a woman who spoiled her son, and now as an adult, he is one of the most selfish, lazy, rude and self-serving people that I know. If he does not get his way on demand he throws a fit. Spoiling kids leads to them growing up thinking that everything will be handed to them, and that everything should be there way all the time. They also never learn to appreciate anything because they never had to work for anything. They look down on others for shallow reasons, like that other person wasn't able to afford the material things they had given to them.

And there is nothing worse than a whiny, spoiled, sissy-boy brat.

Answer 3

all depends on how much you're spoiling him.
are you giving him nice things...that's o.k.
are you giving him EVERYTHING he asks for..that's not o.k.

kids need to learn restraint. if you're at the store and he wants some new toy, tell him yes if he's been good and done his chores (even little ones can have shores) or no, if he has been bad or not done his chores.

set up an allowance program for him based on his chores and this way he can learn the value of money.

even if he is 2 he can help pick up his toys, he can go along when you take the dog for a walk, he can make sure his used plates and cups are in the kitchen where they belong when he's done eating or drinking....things like this. when he gets older then he can get more chores, like setting the table for dinner, sorting his dirty clothes, etc....

take it from a kid who never learned very good money management...my parents told me "no" sometimes, but usually if i wanted something i got it and i wish they would have done more with money management for me.

so, take care and don't spoil, just provide.

Answer 4

Spoiling your kid too much will have major consequences. Your child will grow accustomed to havng nice things and a certain way of life. When he grows up you will regret it. He won't appreciate things in life and won't understand how the "real world" works. And the day that you decide to no longer give him things, your son will most likely let you know how pissed off he is at you. I know a lady who spoils her daughter and she is the biggest brat ever.

Answer 5

Burying your kid in toys and video games isn't providing him with a better life.
"Spoiling" your child this way will only make your child a useless, self indulgant adult.
The best way to "spoil" your child is to teach them gratitude for the things they do get, and to teach your child to be honest and respectful, and to teach your child the valor in hard work.

Instead of "spoiling" your kid with crap from the toy store...open up a trust account for him...put the money you would normally spend on the junk you think are "nice things in life" that way...when he's older...he'll have some money to start himself a nice future...having a secure future and the opportunity to go to college if he wants to is truly a gift and a "nice thing in life".

Listen to your wife...she knows what she's talking about.

Answer 6

Yes, it is wrong. It doesn't allow the child to have any kind of appreciation of anything since they have all they could ever wish for and more.

Spoiling your child is not doing him any favors, is not preparing him for adult life and is not making you a better parent. How about having them do chores around the house and earning enough to go for a shopping spree at Toys R Us? That teaches them the value of hard work and money.

Just because "you want him to have nice things in life" since you didn't have much growing up, doesn't give you the right to buy them whatever you want, any time you please. Kids can have too much stuff and not care about 90% of it.

Answer 7

Yes, kids need to be taught that they do not get everything they want all the time. They should be taught that they are rewarded for good behavior and punished for bad behavior. These lessons are more valuable to your child then anything else in life.

If they receive things because they are behaving well then that is fine. But if you spoil your child regardless of behavior then you are doing your child a great disservice.

Answer 8

I would suggest to you that constantly spoiling your child will hurt everyone in the long run.

We all want our children to have nice things, and a pleasant life..but spoiling children seems to set you, and them, up for failure.
Your child will be overly dependent on you for "things" in the future, and will not be as self sufficient as he could be. Also, this burdens you and your wife..because when your child should be out there surviving on his own..he might be really cozy at home relying on you for his survival..at age 30!
What your son really needs is your attention. Instead of buying him things to show your love..you could take him fishing, boating, hiking, etc. Show him you care for him by letting him know..without spending a fortune. This will benefit him most..now and in the future.

Answer 9

There is a right way and a wrong way to spoil children. I think spoiling them with material possessions could be setting them up for disappointment later in life. Possessions do not make happy children.

However, I think spoiling children with your time and attention is an awesome investment. When we become adults, we don't remember all the things our parents bought us. But we do remember the good times we spent with others who cared for us.

Answer 10

yes spoiling ur son 2 much is bad cause he might grow up 2 b a jerk but and u dont want that also he might grow up and think that he is better then everyone else and trust me no women wants a man like that so listen 2 ur wife dont spoil him 2 much or it might happen