Like in gym class he would be sitting in a corner all by himself twiddling his thumbs or something. Then a bunch of girls would come over screaming "HEY FRED! CHEER UP!" and they would sit next to him, and he would just walk away and sit somewhere else.
Since I really liked Fred, I thought I would sit next to him to give him company. We've been talking like this for a week, I would find him sitting all by himself and I would go up to him and start a conversation. He seems interested whenever I talk to him. One time I smiled at him, and he smiled back, which I don't think I've ever seen him do that to anyone! So I think he might feel the same way.
My question is if I should ask him out now or get to know him better. Some say I should ask him out now, some say I shouldn't. If I do ask him out, I might scare him off because we haven't been talking for very long. If I don't, he might forget about me over the summer and find some other girl. So what should I do? (we're both 14)
2006-06-07 06:20:24 · 30 answers · asked by Alex 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
school ends in a few days so I don't have too much time.
2006-06-07 06:23:25 · update #1
I meant to say some friends think I should ask him out, and some friends think I should wait.
2006-06-07 06:25:45 · update #2
I have learned you only live once so don't have any regrets. What is the worse he can do say no?? Who cares if he's says no at least you will be able to sleep at night and still be friends. If he says yes even better. Just tell him that you like him and you find him attractive he will be flattered either way. GOOD LUCK !!! :) Think positive and just DO IT!
2006-06-07 06:29:41 · answer #1 · answered by Turtlechica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be that guy. He's probably found something in you that makes him feel comfortable. Perhaps because you take the time to have an actual conversation. If I were you, I would not ask him out just yet. I would ask him if he would like to continue talking during the summer. If he says yes, get his phone number. Give him a call - keep in mind that things might not be the same on the phone. Eventually, see how he feels about doing something together. Let things progress naturally from there. Keep an understanding that he's a shy person like you are and there's probably more to his personality than he's allowing.
2006-06-20 15:03:01 · answer #2 · answered by wuzzle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he is quite shy, instead of asking him out directly, why not drop hints instead? Like, talk about a game you have tickets to but didn't have any companion. Or, bring up the subject of a homework you need help with. Or, voice out how thirsty you are after gym class how about getting something at the cafeteria. Or, suggest a program/class you can join together for summer. Of course, these aren't true blue dates, but just giving yourselves a start like this may slowly lead to a full-blown romance.
2006-06-21 12:26:08 · answer #3 · answered by Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey hun...if he is as shy as you say and does not talk to everyone as most people do...then I suggest you give hims some time. Get to know him and what makes him tick...you may be very surprised and you may find out why he is as shy as he is. Remember....he can go back into his shell any moment so treat him with care. Spend time just getting to know him and earn his trust.....for the right reasons of course. Let him trust you enough and form a friendship....and then from there...once a foundation of common interest and friendship has been set....if there is a spark...the romance will follow.
2006-06-21 08:37:07 · answer #4 · answered by Dewy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you should do dear, is to get him to talk about his family life. He sounds like a victim of abuse of some sort. He may just be painfully shy and if so good for you for helping him to come out of his shell. From what you have described, he is not one to "find some other girl over the summer" Why don't you give him your phone number and then the ball is in his court. If he wants to see yu or talk to you he will call. Good luck sweetie.
2006-06-21 10:47:58 · answer #5 · answered by nanawnuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it from me i think you should ask him out before time runs out trust me i asked a guy out and he said yes and it was on the school bus when i asked him it was on the first day back at North Medford High School on Sept 07,2005 and it has been 9 months12 days my bf & i been together you'll never know int'll you try okay and just let you know my bf is only 17 years old & i am 16 going 17 years old my bf's birthday is on 3/17/89 and mine is 10/19/89 so you'll know him & i are 7 months & 2 days apart and he is a junior going too be a senior this school year and i'm a sophmore going too be a junior this school year the reason he is a junior because he skipped 7Th grade in Hedrick Junior High School
2006-06-20 17:21:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im 13 and i met someone just like that b 4. tell him u like him but don't ask him out. be cool and just hang out and try 2 get him 2 open up a little then by time u know it he'll b talking 2 u just like he would family... and then tell him that u just don't like him n e more that u truly and honestly love him, but if he doesn't feel the same way 4 him just 2 tell u and then u guys can just be friends. then he'll eventually get 2 know u better. b urself. don't try 2 hide things cause he'll find out and then he'll think ur a liar. just be straight forward w/ him and don't be shy. and tell him he doesn't need to be shy either b cuz u can b trusted. just b honest and follow ur heart.
2006-06-21 13:18:54 · answer #7 · answered by I LOVE DYLAN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that if u have reall stong feeling for himthwen go for it girl *go get ur man* lol but yeah i think that if he only acts like that around u then he find u a nice person that he can coresponde to and u should make him trust u and ask him out gril dont be afraid... he could be the person that u could spend the rest of ur life with..... dont let it slip away from u girl..... All the best for the future girl and i hope that u get the answer that ur looking for........ God Bless
2006-06-21 09:28:01 · answer #8 · answered by fobstah14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait, get to know him better, get his phone number
. Over the summer, do something with friends, and then gradually ask him out *(don't scare him away)*
By the way, I'm 14 too so I know how your feeling.
2006-06-21 13:14:49 · answer #9 · answered by punkgrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep on talking to him. Eventually, if he's really interested, he'll ask you out. For some guys, if a girl asks him out, it's a turn-off. Good luck.
2006-06-21 12:54:32 · answer #10 · answered by maryc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋