She has been like this since the day she was born. No one can hold her (only her grandma and sometimes daddy) She follows me everywhere and never plays by her self. I am stay home mom. I do take her out to play group and other things. What to do.?
2006-06-07 06:18:47 · 20 answers · asked by jaymeaso 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I have two older children that never did this. She doesn't like to play with them either. People are telling me there is some thing going on here.
2006-06-07 06:23:46 · update #1
She has separation anxiety. It's normal! Your baby will outgrow that eventually! Keep her occupied with toys or with friends and other families.
2006-06-07 06:21:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get her over it while she's young. start leaving her with loved ones she's familiar with. She's like this because everytime she cries about being held by someone else you reassure her that its a cause to panic by taking her back and holding her yourself.
Start with short periods of time, just long enough that she starts to settle down from crying. It might take her up to half and hour if she's extra agrivated and tired. Make sure the person youre leaving her with has ample toys of interest and pleanty of exciting things to look and talk about.
You can also try switching care takers durring her nap, so she wakes up on her own with just daddy or just aunt joe or something. Although some mothers cannot stand the thought of that.
At this age its not uncommon for her to be more mom oriented, and to fuss a little when youre out of her sight. If she's in a complete state of panic when you leave, then there is a problem and you should help her grow and learn to be trusting and confident.
Youre going to have to get over your fear of abandoning her, at this stage in her life youre only projecting that feeling onto her and creating an insecure child.
The more often she's away from you, and the less often you freak out about her crying by automaticaly taking her back and hushing her, the more she'll realize how exciting and fun these situations can be, and she'll learn to trust that you will always return for her.
2006-06-07 06:27:06 · answer #2 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is completely normal. You might want to try a (very patient) friend coming over and you leaving - first for only 15 minutes or so, then 20 or 25, then half an hour, and gradually increase the amount of time you're away so that she can see Mommy always comes back, and having someone come over to play with her can be fun. I know it kills you to think that she is crying so much, but really, she'll be OK, and it can end up giving you a break so you don't burn out (assuming you haven't already).
2006-06-07 06:22:55 · answer #3 · answered by Married mom of 2, chem/phys tchr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is having a little separation anxiety. You will have to work on it. Try to leave her with her daddy for an hour. You will probably have to leave the house so as not to hear her cry. Don't give up. You know, a little brother or sister may be just the thing to help her get over this.
2006-06-07 06:23:44 · answer #4 · answered by smartypants909 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal for a child at that age, you are her primary care giver she relies on you for everything and eventually that will pass as she gets older and understands that when you leave her or if shes with someone else that your not gone forever that you will be back. Seperation anxiety can be tough. My daugter now 3 was like that until about 2 and then she discovered if i leave a room or go bye bye that i do come back and that im wasnt leaving her. Just give it time it will work out.
2006-06-07 06:22:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter went through a phase at the same age when nobody could hold her except Mommy & Daddy ~ she would warm up to aunts and grandmothers, but never another man except Daddy (my husband loved that). Sounds pretty normal to me, but have your pediatrician check her out just in case. S/he may be able to suggest play therapy or something like that.
2006-06-07 06:50:21 · answer #6 · answered by browneyedgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds normal to me, some toddlers are more independent then the others, they are born different with each other. But those who are always being taken care by mother and several close family members, they tend to cling to them. Bring him/her more often to public places, like children park, shopping with you, driving or in the car.. so he will use to listen to people talking, laughing so he can overcome his fear of others. However, it is also important for you to teach him not to be too friendly to everybody as well. Good luck and hope works :)
2006-06-07 06:27:59 · answer #7 · answered by tinkerbell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong is that you and your family have allowed her to control you from day one. As an infant she obviously fussed if you weren't holding her so you were the one to do the majority of the holding rather than socialize her with others. You need to be able to distance yourself from her occasionally and force her to adjust.If you don't,there will be big problems in the immediate future I'm guessing.
2006-06-07 06:25:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds pretty normal really. Just have to force the issue - leave the room, if she follows - move. Eventually she'll either outgrow it, or realize that it's OK if you step out for a bit.
This your first munchkin?
2006-06-07 06:20:55 · answer #9 · answered by Trazom28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children learn autonomy from a safe base of the reliable presence of their parents. The safer and more secure she is that you are there for her, the more quickly she will start to strike out on her own.
2006-06-07 06:23:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋