2006-06-07 05:42:24 · 19 answers · asked by annabello726652003 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Wow... Umm I think, shocked and betrayed are the first feelings. Confused and sad are on that list as well. We can tell you how we would feel, but that is us. Everyone feels and reacts differently to news like that.
2006-06-07 05:46:33 · answer #1 · answered by Kat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose you would feel disappointed at first. However if you have enjoyed a loving and supportive relationship with this man I urge you to answer these questions was he there for you as a child, did he wipe your tears, share in your happiness, encourage you to do your best in all things, listen to you and love you. If you have answered yes you must know you have always had a dad. At this time you are "missing" your biological father. Being the biological mother or father does not make you a loving mom or dad.
2006-06-07 13:30:06 · answer #2 · answered by gussie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully you feel blessed, my youngest sister was adopted by my step-dad because our real dad didn't want her (mom was preg when they got divorced so she didn't know him as dad anyway). My real dad is a loser, and not a good father. My step-dad on the other hand would do absolutely anything for any of us (four from my moms first marriage). I feel that God blessed us all by bringing my step-dad into our lives. Hopefully you feel the same way about the man who has raised you as his own.
On the other hand, before you completely dismiss your real father, you need to try and find out why he wasn't there. My husband has a daughter from a relationship he had when he was seventeen and her mom took off with her and he just recently discovered where they are. She is fourteen now.
So feel blessed for what you have, and try to find out what is up with the other guy.
2006-06-07 12:58:31 · answer #3 · answered by bluekitty8098 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is ok to feel mad about it if this was not told to you at a young age (kept a secret).
But just think if this person acted as a dad (was there for your special events and when you needed someone to talk to).
If has always acted as a dad then not being your 'biological' dad should not matter. However if you are still puzzled you might want to seek a counselor.
2006-06-07 12:48:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure I would feel devastated. However, if the "dad" was a good father, it should count for a lot. There's probably a very good reason why your parents didn't tell you the truth. Your mom probably didn't want to tell you what kind of man your biological dad is.
2006-06-07 13:02:32 · answer #5 · answered by Mimi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can tell you how you are supposed to feel!It would be completely natural for you to be angry,hurt,sad among a million other emotions.Most importantly-did this person who you thought was your dad be there for you like a dad should?Did he love you like a father should?If he did,then he is your dad.Any man can be a father,takes someone special to be a DAD.If you love each other,that's what really matters.
2006-06-14 12:13:42 · answer #6 · answered by gypsy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was adopted by my dad at 1 1/2 , but my parents did not tell me until I was 8 years old. I think they should have told me sooner but I was OK with it. The only problem was they didn't let me try to find my dad until I was 16. I found him too late he had died 2 years prier to me looking for him.
2006-06-07 12:48:45 · answer #7 · answered by Zippio_loves_Baby_boo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in reality, i had this exact same experience. I felt a bit confused and sad at the time but my relationship with that other guy wasn't so good at the time. When i met my real father it was really great and he was much more what I imagined my father should be like. Hopefully you can have such a good experience as well.
2006-06-07 12:46:17 · answer #8 · answered by xcornmuffinx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on the circumstances. I found out at 13 that my Dad was not my real dad. I found out that he took me in as his own daughter and loved me for who I was. I found out my real father did not want me and wanted my mom to have an abortion. I would have to say that I am glad that he is not my father. I am happy to have the Dad that I do have. Find out the circumstances of why your mom chose not to tell you for so long that your dad wasn't your real dad.
2006-06-07 12:49:07 · answer #9 · answered by glamorouskat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be thankful that he was there to take care of you. He made the choice to love you and raise you. Any one can father a child but it takes a man to be a dad. It shouldn't change the way you feel towards him.
2006-06-07 12:48:46 · answer #10 · answered by Phil L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋