if he doesnt get his way...oh my god...look out!
is this normal????!!!!!!!!
he isnt sick or tired, but is whining an awful lot!!!!!
is this an age thing?
2006-06-07 05:23:33 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Fascinating! Babies are absolutely fascinating!!
But I wouldn't call him a troublemaker ... he is doing what he thinks will work. It's truly up to you, and anyone else that is in charge of him, to reinforce what is correct. In my opinion, these are the crucial years ... where (self) discipline, motivation, and learning are beginning to heighten. Self-discipline is crucial here ... if the child does not learn to curb or control his behavior, then he will learn that this works, and will continue to do it. So self discipline fails in this case. When self discipline fails, then the alternative is to enforce discipline by whichever means are fitting for that child. Many would say that you ignore the child, but this isn't a good message either. Instead, you simply don't give in. Stay with the child, through the whining / crying, etc whenever possible, but do not bribe the child either. Just be there with the child through it all, and talk to him when he calms down. If you decide to discipline the child at this point, you should still remain with the child.
Personally, I would not (and have not) accepted my child hitting me, or screaming directly at me. I wouldn't necessarily go to a corporal situation at this stage, but that depends on your view. Yet, however you enforce discipline, it must be enforced at the times when he is misbehaving, and it must be consistent. Not consistent as in the same consequence over and over, but the same thing in that there is a consequence for a certain action. The consequences should be altered, but rather immediate in order for it to work effectively.
Good luck!
2006-06-07 06:18:02 · answer #1 · answered by Earl G 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thats why they call it the terrible twos..
Make sure to set down rules and do not bend them.
Spend plenty of time with the child, teach them the right things to do not just discipline them.
Do not give in to his whining. Tell him that you do not answer to whining, only asking. If you want something then ask dont whine or cry. When you dont respond after telling this to him a couple times, then he should find another way to get your attention
Good luck!
2006-06-07 12:29:33 · answer #2 · answered by kimberly2577 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to put a stop to the whining now before he gets any older. Everytime he whine tell him to stop. And if it is because he is not getting what he wants sit him in time out.
2006-06-07 12:32:13 · answer #3 · answered by The Invisible Woman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think that he is teething?? My son was getting his molars in at 17 months and he was a BEAR to deal with. He acted the same way as your son. Try infant tylenol or orajel. It was a hard phase but he will grow out of it. Hang in there.
2006-06-07 12:27:27 · answer #4 · answered by LNM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the terrible two's are on their way. Don't worry. Just keep showing him what's right and what's wrong. Whatever you do, don't cave when he throws a tantrum. It won't be easy, but it won't last forever as long as you keep up the discipline.
2006-06-07 13:05:24 · answer #5 · answered by Mimi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My bro is 4 years old..and he is exactly like that! It is absolutly normal, but very anoying. When he doesn't get his way, he screams he yells, does whatever just to get his way, and he always does. Eventually, your kid will change, but yea, it's just an age thing right now. If he is like this when he is older, which he probably won't be, just talk to him calmly and say, you won't get anything if you don't calm down. Sometimes, you just gotta let them cry, cuz ya cant get them whatever they want, you dont live and work just to support them. Just sit them down, and let them cry, they'll calm down, believe me.
2006-06-07 12:38:13 · answer #6 · answered by la. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds pretty normal. He may just be hitting the "terrible two's" a bit early. Be firm but patient, and it will pass.
2006-06-07 12:27:24 · answer #7 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a two year old who is the same way they know how to manipulate the parents and push our buttons. nip it in the bud as they say don't let him to continue it. I know it is hard exspecially in public places they think they rule the roost. good luck to you.
2006-06-07 12:28:52 · answer #8 · answered by arizonabrat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's on the brink of terrible two's. You really should nip it in the bud. If you don't do something about it now, it only gets worse.
2006-06-07 12:37:23 · answer #9 · answered by eehco 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal and can last for years.
2006-06-07 12:31:20 · answer #10 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋