What's her deal?

Question

Been out with this girl three times. First two dates we had dinner, drinks, very nice conversation...I didn't really try to kiss her goodnight either time because I was just letting her lead and if that wasn't what she wanted it was fine because they really were good dates and I figured I'd get it next time.

Went out with her again last night, just for drinks. We talked for a couple hours again, but this time I leaned in for the goodnight kiss and she couldn't have turned her head away fast enough. I know she was in a previous long relationship--the kind where she still talks to her ex--and she's probably seeing other people, which really isn't a big deal.

I'm just wondering if she's really shy, conservative, or just hung up on old baggage. I suppose I'll keep in touch with her, give her some space, and ask her out again in a few weeks...but I'm wondering if I should bother or just move on and forget about it.

So just want to ask y'all what you read into all this?

Answer 1

i think she sees kissing as something special you share with someone she can trust and cares about. 3 dates doesnt really do that but give her sometime and she'll come around. it took me 5 months to kiss the guy i liked. i also had a previous relationship

Answer 2

I get the feeling that she may be wanting to take things VERY slow....which isn't at all a bad thing.....in fact I'm one of those kind of girls and especially if she was in a very serious relationship and still stays in contact with her ex...maybe she still has serious feelings for him still...that poses a problem because she doesn't want you to get the wrong idea but she also wants to see if she can meet someone else and have a potential "new" relationship. I say give her a little space (don't call nonstop every day) and continue to ask her out with just the idea that you will start out as friends....as a little more time goes by you can try to take the next step by kissing....or you could just ask her straight out and lay it on the line...telling her that you know she still has contact with the ex and that she may still feel something for him but you want to know where you stand in all this?? If it were me I would be impressed that you took the initiative to find out rather than do a lot of guessing. BUT if she gives you the run-around then alarms should go off and I would stay away from her...because if she's that confused in a couple more months or so then you may try to find someone else with the understanding that if she figures her life out.....she can give you call.
Hope this helps!
Good Luck!