about a few months ago i had a bunch of friends...(eigth grade) and it was all girls and we had a blast together...then it broke up slowly then i had three good friendss...one left and then i had just 2....and this coming year (freshmen year) one friend said she doesn't wanta me friends with me anymore then my other friend isn't going to this school...i called up a few of my old friends to apologize and see if they wanted to talk again like old times...and they said they didnt wannta be friends with me again...so now i have no friends and i'm just so upset...i don't know what to do...it's hard for me to make new friends cuz i'm so shy...please help me..how do i make friends...be realistic..also i don't want to be lonely in high school...:(
2006-06-07 04:58:11 · 14 answers · asked by goodatcookin 2 in Health ➔ Other - Health
my sweet friend, you are so clear in your thoughts ...I pity on your other friends as why they are not noticing a true jewel which is you..
Today I give you a sane's advise......NEVER LOOK FOR A FRIEND.....TRUE AND SENSIBLE FRIENDS HAPPEN BY CHANCE...
and how can you say that you have no friends when I AM HERE ....smile now my dear friend....always keep smiling.
2006-06-07 05:04:23 · answer #1 · answered by mycasper_22 3 · 12⤊ 1⤋
Use these only if you are really desparate...
You could try and use psychological methods. One of these would be conformity.. You could try social influence; this being where you allmost copy people around you, say your sitting in assembly and the girl besides you crosses her legs... you do the same. Start talking to her, keep immetating, and in the end you will have her at your feet.
Also, you could try and force yourself upon people. Try to be demanding and just go straight up to people you dont know well and say "You fancy doing summin later?", Many a' time you can get a strange look from this,, but it can work.
On the other side, the above may not be for you; as you are shy I would recommend letting people come to you, just be freindly in school. Hold a door open for someone. Be their partner in a science practical. Just get talking, its the best way forward.
One thing you do not want to do is make enemies... yeah, stand up for yourself and dont be pushed around... but dont let them walk all over you. Remember you can resolve issues without being hit or hitting back.
2006-06-07 05:15:30 · answer #2 · answered by xeonxr6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, and most important, this is a Temporary problem that many, many people go through. With all of the changes going on in your life at your age, a change in your core group of friends is very very common. You will probably get another, different set of friends after high school, and another set after you get married, etc.
You may be surprised at how easy it is to make new friends by joining some crappy club, taking some silly crafting course or volunteering at a Humane Society or for some politician. Get out of the house and be yourself.
Being a teenager is harder than most teenagers realize. The good thing is that we get over it.
2006-06-07 05:14:19 · answer #3 · answered by Joe the answer man 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I have to ask..did something happen that made your friends change their minds about being friends with you?..And if they decided not to be your friend could this be a better thing for you. Are you about to go to another school?..If so great because you will have many opportunities to meet lots of new friends. Growing up is sometimes confusing...friends will come and go..sometimes friends can be disappointing..but true friends will be with you for along time and accept you for you. I experienced this at your age and it can be very hurtful and confusing..so keep you head held high and be a kind and generous friend (no money just kindness and acceptance of others) and you will draw friends of the same kind...I hope you find true friends that will love and accept you for you...
2006-06-07 05:08:53 · answer #4 · answered by FloNightingGale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join an after school club or a church. It's a big step, I know, especially if you're shy but you have to otherwise you may become more and more sad. I know how that feels. I hung around with a bunch of people who told me they didn't want to be my friend anymore because I was a geek etc. i really couldn't understand because I hadn't done anything wrong. But i joined a drama group and I'm in Year 10 (in England) and I have loads of friends, who like me for me. We never row. You just need to hang in there.
2006-06-07 05:05:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get involved in clubs whose activities you really care about, maybe a sport or drama or something. They don't all have to be through your school, friends outside of school are good too. Just say hi to random people in the hall and do things like pick people's books up if they drop them... that way if you have a bad reputation (I don't know your situation, I'm just guessing), that will help. Be who you are and people who are like you will want to be with you. Stay true to yourself, you are your best friend in the end.
2006-06-07 05:06:16 · answer #6 · answered by Lizrd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first look at yourself. What are you doing? Then think about people at your school that you usually wouldn't hang out with. Sit at different lunch tables. Do you have any Sib's. See if their friends have Sib's your age. Last be yourself don't change the good things about you for someone else. Have fun and Good luck!
P.S.
Don't listen to the guy below me he sounds like a online predator. Or he's just insane!
2006-06-07 05:04:20 · answer #7 · answered by Elli M. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be yourself people will appreciate that eventually. Just make small talk with people that aren't "popular" accept people for who they are and in return people will begin to accept you. You have to be the first to speak to people sometimes and be a friend don't always wait for people to come to you.Be a leader.
2006-06-07 05:05:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet there are some other girls in your school who are shy, and who need a friend. You might look around and find some of them.
2006-06-07 05:04:47 · answer #9 · answered by Rambo Smurf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try being more outgoing, friendly, and loyal.....oh yea and get involved in school organizations, that will get you friends all the time because you get to know and meet more people.
2006-06-07 05:04:41 · answer #10 · answered by inevitable 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that if they were true friends, an apologie would have been enough, they apparently, aren't good friends, stay away, and just be patient, and a good friend will find you. good luck.
2006-06-13 19:17:31 · answer #11 · answered by bill 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋