My boyfriend and I had our first child two years ago. Since then everything that we got him like the bouncer,crib,bottles,etc is in our hall closet, my son's closet in his room, and our bedroom. We live in a cramp 2 bedroom apartment. I'm about to finish my last year of school. I want to start building up my career. Who is going to hire a pregnant woman with a degree. We just got custody of his older son who is moving in next week which mean now will be paying two of everything. Please don't forget how expensive child care is. When I was pregnant the first time I didn't like it at all. I was always tired and it would effect my job performance. Do you think I should have another child or not?
2006-06-07 04:52:22 · 9 answers · asked by geriyourstudent 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No, wait a few years. Just because you have the equipment in storage is no reason to have another child. I only had one and eventually sold all the baby stuff....but I bought almost everything second hand and could sell it for about the same price I bought it for. You should wait until you can afford a bigger place and also see how it works out with the older boy moving in...that alone will be a big strain/adjustment.
2006-06-07 05:07:07 · answer #1 · answered by Dellajoy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Both of you should ask yourselves:
1) Are we emotionally ready for another child?
2) Are we physically ready for another child?
3) Is our relationship prepared to handle the strain of an additional child?
4) Do we have the time, energy and financial resources to provide what this next child will need?
5) Are we financially ready for another child?
It sounds like you want to wait, while he doesn't. It makes sense to wait, especially given that you will have another child moving in, and I think he'll agree once he sees what a second income does to help.
2006-06-07 05:04:52 · answer #2 · answered by Veritatum17 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest getting married and and raising the two kids you will have in the home --- he wants another child he has one (the one that's coming and your own). Tell him thats enough drama for now --- you are only one person and now you have a career, 2 kids, a husband and a home to take care of --- make sure you are protected from pregnancies.
2006-06-07 06:47:39 · answer #3 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think u should. if i were u i would finish school first, then settle for my career and when i have my future planned out and ready to go then i would have my child.
2006-06-07 05:08:51 · answer #4 · answered by Team Jacob :) ||kiki♥|| 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't start your career pursue your dreams first get started on what you went to school for. think about it if you have another kid you might not even have enough to support that child. pursue your dreams.
2006-06-07 05:29:19 · answer #5 · answered by angelthfy131 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guy's should reach an agreement, has he proposed marriage?
2006-06-07 05:03:59 · answer #6 · answered by boselydia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should wait until you either get married...or wait until you can get some more money so that you could buy a bigger house
2006-06-07 05:20:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both have to want to have a kid and it is good idea to marry first ;)
2006-06-07 05:23:59 · answer #8 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not if you don't feel like it.
2006-06-07 04:59:21 · answer #9 · answered by Leonardo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋