How do I stop my 18 month old from hitting.?

Question

I tale her no and she hits me.

Answer 1

Please do not listen to monoxidesbab...
That is not how to teach a child at this age or any age for that matter! We need to practice what we preach. What I would do is after the child hits you for example,I would say, "No,no sweetie that hurts mommy." and gently grab her hand and have her touch you gently and say,"Yes, be nice to mommy." then distract her immediately with something that she enjoys, such as a book or a special toy. You can even practice touching her stuffed animals nicely with her. Hope this helps.

Good luck and best wishes.

Answer 2

Don't hit back!!!! They only learn this is ok. Especially at this age, they copy everything you do... hitting included.. You hit her because you don't want her to hit? It makes no sense to do so.

Ignore it - that works. Because she will continue to do it if she gets a reaction from you -- positive or negative - kids learn quickly that if you respond to their action, they are going to continue it.. Try not to tell her "no" so much, just act like it never happened, and divert her attention onto something else, or try to figure out what is frustrating her, and eliminate it. Distraction is the best cure -- if she hits, say in an excited voice --"look at that birdie outside!!", She'll forget all about being upset, and she will forget about hitting -- It works, I'm telling you -- ignore it, and distract, move on -- it will pass - she's testing you, don't let her win.

Answer 3

do NOT hit them back. i'm a psych major focused on child psych and i can tell you now, children learn from modeling.
first you need to identify WHY your child is hitting. has she witnessed you hitting someone else? is she aggravated when she does it?
if it's a play thing, tell her it makes you sad when she hits you and demonstrate how to nicely pet someone. if she's aggravated, dont' yell at her. it will further her agitation. instead you need to calmly tell her "no, that hurts" and then model a godo way to alleviate anger. like breathing, or by jumping up and down. small children don't know how to handle their feelings and by hitting them back, you are only teaching them to keep hitting.

Answer 4

You have to use some form of discipline that lets her know you mean business. I used a good ole spanking on the behind through the diaper or sitting in the chair for several minutes. Good luck and God bless you.

Answer 5

hit her back..not hard or anything...but sometimes you just have hit back and then tell her that it's not nice to hit or do this....when she hits you, grab her arms with a firm hold and get to her eye level and tell her with a firm voice that your serious and it's not nice to hit! if she continues to hit you or anyone else, make her sit in time out for 1 minute or send her to her room for a few minutes and when she has calm down, tell her what she did wrong and why she was sent to time out or her room and that hitting is not nice and then teach her to say sorry and to give a hug to you or who ever she hit! my daughter started hitting at 18 months and i would just hit her back or grab her arms and got to her eye level and told her it wasn't nice to hit and i would make her sit for a minute or i sent her to her room and after she calm down i told her what she did wrong and made her apologize and give a hug, after a month of this she finally stopped hitting. same goes for everything else, if she starts bitting bit her back, but not hard and put her in time out or send her to her room, eventually she will learn not to bite anymore! if you don't feel comfortable with hitting back or biteing back or spanking, then just try the time out or sending her to her room, then makeing her apologize and giveing a hug after she has calm down.....

Answer 6

u shouild ask them if they would like to be hit and hit then a little then tell how does it feel to them ot just put them in the counter and it will be ok

Answer 7

This works for me and my toddler. I hold his little hands down (be strong show them you're serious) and say firmly "Mama said no hitting, mama said no hitting" DO THIS EACH AND EVERY TIME.

Answer 8

my daughter is 14 months old and does the same thing I tell her no then i tell her she has to hug her mommy and then she hugs me instead of hitting me

Answer 9

hit them back...i mean not hard...but enough for them to know that it does not feel good...or that it is not nice...that way they will stop doing it....