I want to get married, and start a life of my own, and my boyfriend used to feel like that, but he has changed his mind possibly. He wants me to do things for myself, instead of together, he doesnt want me to regret it, and i understand that but, we used to talk about marriage all the time, now its whatever happens, happens. Should i be worried or should i continue being with him? I mean i love him with all my heart, but i dont want to waste my time, if the relationship is going to take forever to go to the next step. Testing me to see whether i really love him or not.
2006-06-07 04:40:56 · 8 answers · asked by Angel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometimes you gotta go with your heart... he may be getting cold feet (at the mention of marriage) especially if he was a quote/unquote "player" before devoting himself to a relationship with you... sometimes the hardest thing is to think "is this the one?" The risk is in the leap of faith you take, by making the vows and all... will you really love him for the rest of your life?, visa versa on his part... sometimes open lines of communication is key... keep your head up girl! maybe he just needs some time to think about his place in this... talk about things then let it go... dwelling on it will only make things become ackwardly annoying to each of you.,..say whats on your mind let him say his piece, then go on to daily routine...
2006-06-08 06:00:47 · answer #1 · answered by nikadrianacl01 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he worried about the fact that he is going to be with one woman for the rest of his life. You should ask him how he really feels about the subject. If he doesn't think you should get married and that you both are just wasting your time then move on. But if this is just a "test" to see if you really love him, its bogus. Wouldn't you have already proven your love by not doing anything stupid behind his back, or is it him that doesn't want you to find out? Check up on these things before you consider commiting your life to this guy. If he doesn't trust your love why should you trust his? Think this over and Good luck!
2006-06-07 11:46:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good marriage takes great committment and good communication from both parties, you should find out his committment and intention before taking further steps.
Maybe its time to sit down and have a cup of tea, ask about his goals and his thought of getting marry. It might just be miscommunication or wrong assumptions that's throwing you off here, you just have to find out for sure.
See what he say, if he's way off course and just want to hang around; maybe then its time to look elsewhere.
2006-06-07 12:30:27 · answer #3 · answered by thsiung 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check out the divorce rate dear - if you are worried about wasting your time then you need to let this man go and find you somebody that is in a hurry.
2006-06-07 11:50:12 · answer #4 · answered by 3DDD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to him about this? Communication is the best thing in a relationship and you would regret calling it quits if you don't know what he is really feeling.
2006-06-07 11:45:32 · answer #5 · answered by foradare 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with what your heart says, he might be waiting to see if you lose interest because he has second thoughts. If he puts you off tell him your going to move on and find someone that is ready and he will either agree or take off
2006-06-07 11:45:11 · answer #6 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys out there r afraid of commintment to his girl. give him some time,dont talk about marriage to him that will make him twice as nervous as he is already. just give him so time to think about. if he still does not talk about it. give him alot of time to think about you and him together. dont worry. he loves you, he just needs to think clearly. stay with him. good luck to ya girl!
2006-06-07 11:47:36 · answer #7 · answered by sexysweet69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's all over. Plzz. don't force yourself on him.
2006-06-07 11:50:40 · answer #8 · answered by Leonardo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋