i just recently started seeing this guy, ive been friends with him for a while and we started hanging out and basically doing everything people do when they are dating, except we arent. he is moving to VA to go to school in august and says to come visit him on the weekends and he just invited me to go to Fl for a few days. i have a very strong connection with him and i think he does with me also, but i think he is holding his emotions back, and i dont know how to take it. is he acting weird because he doesnt like me a lot, or because he does like me more then he wants to? what do i do? what do you think about it?
2006-06-07 04:30:18 · 25 answers · asked by kristlynn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the question is do you think that i am wasting my time (he doesnt have emotional interest) or its worth it. he told me once that my presence consumes him and that he thinks i am quite amazing. but sometimes he seems very distant..
2006-06-07 04:34:27 · update #1
sound to me like hes in love if i was moving away i would have broken it off and he hasn't he wants to spend time with you take a chance on life who know he could be come your husband and anyways have fun go with him and in joy being with each other after school who knows what could happened the sky is the limit in joy and have fun and don't worry so much
2006-06-07 04:36:06 · answer #1 · answered by trouble 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋
he is probably just keeping his feelings at bay because he knows he is moving. if he is leaving to go to college its probably best if you don't start a long distance relationship because this is one of the most important growing experiences in his life. he is going to meet and date new people and I personally think that's good for him. settling down too early is a big mistake a lot of young adults make. life experience is one of the most important tools you need to get through life and it can't be taught in a class. if you two are truly meant to be with each other than maybe when he graduates you can explore something more than friends then however just think that you will both be two different people in 2-4 years (depending on how long he is going to school). i would advise staying friends while he is gone but not trying to pursue a serious relationship with him long distance during his college experience. also remember that people have an odd way of looking perfect from a distance.
2006-06-07 04:36:52 · answer #2 · answered by amyclay350 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The word 'weird' is not specific enough.
This relationship is at a cross roads where the future is very uncertain for both of you.
Long distance relationships can be extremely difficult. Very soon you both will have to decide whether to continue...or put an end to this relationship.
2006-06-07 04:44:37 · answer #3 · answered by Sammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him know how you feel and then he might open up to you more. he may be confused about the whole thing.
probably he is sad that he is going away and he will miss you a lot, and so he asks you to come visit, but he just wants to stop time.
and don't say it in a note, because so many things can go wrong with notes. stare him in the eye and say it, and say you're not letting him go anywhere until he answers you!
2006-06-07 04:35:41 · answer #4 · answered by otis_hobson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UHHHH!!! You Guys Are Dating And In A Long DIstance Relationship.
2006-06-07 04:32:53 · answer #5 · answered by Jay B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he is holding back because he is scared of what you might do if he opens up. I believe that he is more willing to just hang out with you than to lose you because he approached you in a way that you were uncomfortable with. Confront him, but be gentle!
2006-06-07 04:35:17 · answer #6 · answered by foodlover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take time to talk to him. It seems like you are both just getting to know each other. Take it slowly, after all He will be going to college soon. Take the initiative and talk about your feelings for him and then maybe he will share is with you.
2006-06-07 04:38:35 · answer #7 · answered by goddess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are reading too much into this.
he likes you. he invited you to go on vacation with him. He wants to see you on weekends when he isn't in school. He's worried about the distance thing and doesn't want to get his hopes up too high and then get dumped by you.
seems like you like him a lot. let him know that. relax and stop listening to your girlfriends and all their crap.
2006-06-07 04:35:04 · answer #8 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm an idealist, I would think he is afraid to ruin your friendship with a romance. Most frienships will not survive a romance but these situations usually make the BEST realationships. If they last...
2006-06-07 04:34:06 · answer #9 · answered by The Sea Captain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having connection is different than having relationship!!
First decide what is more important to you studies or a relation with a boy? You decide you priority, later don't regret.
2006-06-07 04:36:50 · answer #10 · answered by Bolan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As for what should you do that is something that you will have to decide. does he care for you sounds like it to me. He wants you to visit him on weekends. You and he might want to talk and you may want to ask how he feels he may not know exactly how you feel either.
2006-06-07 04:36:13 · answer #11 · answered by liza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋