My friend and I are currently friends with benefits. We just came off a relationship that didnt last too long. But we decided to remain friends with all the privileges. Now when ever she goes out to one of her male friend's house, i get jealous or worried that she is doing something. Its like wise for her, I'll go see a good female friend and she'll be like where were you? What did you do? etc. So how do i try and fix this problem?
2006-06-07 04:24:58 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thus the problem with the whole "friends with benefits" concept. Find a real lover.
2006-06-07 04:27:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Commit or let it go. this will never work like this, U r wasting time asking questions about where U been and where U going. Actually because both of u have such good friends besides eachother once U commit U will have a trust issue. So really I think U need to just stay friends but leave the benefits until U have figured out what and where the previous relationship went wrong. Good Luck!
2006-06-07 11:39:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends W/ Benefits Never Works Because Of THIS! Maybe You And Your Friend Need To Admit That Now You Are MORE Than Friends Or Stop Seeing Each Other.
2006-06-07 11:29:58 · answer #3 · answered by Jay B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are more emotionally involved with this person then you had expected. Maybe you two should talk about taking your relationship to the next level. If you two are questioning eachothers whereabouts then you definatly have feelings for eachother that are more then friends...... the "BENEFITS" of an open relationship are there are no strings attached, no questions or commitments. This relationship doesn't have all the benefits of that type of relationship. Either re evaluate it or end it all together, otherwise you may start to resent eachother and lose both the "friendship & benefits"
2006-06-07 11:33:06 · answer #4 · answered by LO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did you break up? if you resolve those issues and start over, you definitely have the emotional attatchments to be a great couple. other than that, give eachother more space. you don't nessecarily have to tell her you were at another girls house. sometimes the truth should be hidden a bit to soften a blow, but don't lie. she'll be hurt that you couldn't trust her with the truth. I think you two are still holding on pretty tight to one another, and maybe you should stay in the situation you're in but not have sex with other people for health and safety issues. It would stop the jealousy and keep you guys from sharing unwanted conditions. it just might push you back into couplehood, too.
2006-06-07 11:31:31 · answer #5 · answered by Exodus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i am in the same situation with the friends with bene's thing and i get jealous all the time...but you guys both have to understand ....u are not in a "relationship" to be asking questions of where one or the other goes. If you guys both feel that way maybe you should be in a relationship! Thats what I am trying to do right now! GOOD LUCK!
2006-06-13 13:55:04 · answer #6 · answered by jennlessard79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny this is what i am going through, I have came to the end of the problem is that you guys shouldn't be friends with benefits. Because all that is going to do is make it worse. You guys just need space. i know it is hard. I mean you can talk but don't ask questions you would ask if you guys were going out.
This is how i put it. And don't go out with anyone for awhile
2006-06-07 11:30:41 · answer #7 · answered by BUNNY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys obviously cant be friends with benefits because your acting like boyfriend/girlfriend. You have to choose....its either one or the other and since you cant turn your feelings off then either you try to work the relationship out or find other friends with benefits.
2006-06-07 11:35:09 · answer #8 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know how u can fix this,but i kinda have a similar problem.My 'friend w/ benefits' lives in New York,im in Kentucky,and i get EXTREMELY worried that he is 'w/' other girls all the time.I get REALLY jelous too.He says that he cant find a girl,but he is HOT and i dont know wat the other girls are thinking,but they better not be thinking of gettin with him.Hes sweet,and spicey,and cute,and sexy.I couldnt imagine living w/o him,now that ive found him.Ive never actually met him,i want to,but were too far apart.The 'relationship' prbly wont last,but i hope it does.
2006-06-07 11:34:16 · answer #9 · answered by pro_heartbreaker_69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either get in a committed relationship or end the "benefits" part. Its obvious you two are either selfish, in not wanting to let the other go, are you two are just really meant to be in an exclusive relationship with each other. Do you love her maybe?
2006-06-07 11:31:20 · answer #10 · answered by Proud Army Wife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋