Do you spank you kids?

Question

If you do how old were they when you started spanking them?How does it effect your child now? Do you think it works better than Time out? Why?

Answer 1

I THINK SPANKING IS NECESSARY. DISCIPLING YOUR KIDS ARE IMPORTANT. YOU CAN START SPANKING WHEN THEY TURN 2 YEARS OLD. DON'T BEAT UP YOUR KIDS! JUST LET THEM KNOW YOU ARE IN CHARGE.

Answer 2

No. I absolutely do not spank my child. I hated being spanked while I was growing up and always said I would not do that when I had kids. I cringe inwardly the very few times my husband has tapped him just once or twice on the backend. There are much better ways teach your children. Right now he's two and we'll sit him on our lap until he quiets down and then we talk about what he was doing wrong and why he shouldn't do that and ask him if he's all done doing whatever and he says yes we'll send him on his way. Even though he's pretty young this works for him because he's developmentally advanced and we can hold conversations like that with him. Later we will probably give him regular time outs or take away privilages but still continue to talk things over.

Answer 3

i have to agree with Germany there, try talking and then grounding or taking a toy or privilege away and then if that doesn't work sometimes a spank on the bottom will get their attention to let them know just how serious you are. i had a very respected pediatrician tell me that a spanking on the bottom or back of the upper thigh was OK as long as it was only there and not excessive. each child is different. my oldest needed a spanking once in a while and my second just about never. my third doesn't need it either but i can already see that my 4th (and final i might add) is gonna need some here and there. when i tell her no or remove her from what's not for her, like a plug or something that can really hurt her, she just gives me a look like "who are you to tell me no" they're all different even when under the same roof. just try other methods of correction first and a spanking as a last resort.

Answer 4

I say try time out, try different things before you lay a hand on your child. Now if that doesn't work, then use a firm voice and tell them why you are going to spank them (it will frighten them into behaving if you're luck) then you spank them on the behind or the back of the leg. Depending on the age of the child, will determine the strengh you will use. Actually, it also depends on the size of the child. I think then when they're toddlers you should firmly tell them no and explain it to them and tap their little hands. Be very careful to only tap them. They're just babies.

But I've seen some really nasty behaving toddlers that you'd like to send flying to the moon. But then I think it's the parents fault. They should be hit not the child. I hate that cuz people don't discipline their children, cuz they're too young or they don't believe in hitting them. Well I don't care what anyone says! Sometimes you need to spank them! Not beat them, even though you might want to, but you have to use tough love sometimes.

Answer 5

Yes, spank my 8 yr old son, I started when he was 10 months old, and he is a well mannered, well disciplined child. I use it in addition to time out. I explain to him what he did wrong and why he is getting a spanking, each situation does not deserve a spanking so I go by case by case. I very rarely have to spank in anymore, He knows that I will and thinks twice about his actions. Plus I ground him and take away his play time. So I have not problems.

I don't think it is so much the spanking but the fact that he knows I mean what I say.

Answer 6

I do spank both my children, but only when nothing else works. Most of the time grounding them from something they enjoy does the trick. My kids were at least about 2 before I ever spanked them, but when they were younger than that I would spat their hand.

Answer 7

i have a newbortn and i do plan on spanking her when she understands thedifference between right and wrong. as long as you don't just spank your child and walk away .
warn your child first if it continues spank him/her after the spanking and the child has calmed down GET DOWN on that childs level and tell him/her why you did it and tell them why they shouldn't have done what they did.upset or not hug your child and tell them you still love them and leave it at that .
if you choose not to spank use the time out and get down on the childs level and do as i stated before it just depends on how well the child understands or how bad the child is.
this comin from a black chick in ga i got plenty of whoopins but i am gonna do it this way

Answer 8

I dont spank my child and I NEVER will... I have noticed that parents who spank there kids, the kids react in the same way if someone does something to them to make them mad the kid hits them... its a cycle... its not necessary... the time out works great with my son, he would rather be doing something then sitting out. as they get older I think you should take away privileges!

Answer 9

Well, based on what I've heard, it changes kids. But I think that today, there is a better method of getting kids to act better. Slowly and calmly. Sometimes, you can spank, just a normal, non painful spank. But if you do it all the time, you are just driving you kids awya from you, and they will not respect you as much as if you talk to them calmly and let them explain what is wrong.

Answer 10

I don't have any kids, but I plan on spanking them when they are a little older than 1 years....depends on how big they are. Too little of a child is NOT ok to spank (like a preemie of something)

Answer 11

Yes you can spank your kids. Have you noticed that parents that put the kid in time out and just talk about it, they are the kids that always get away with doing wrong or they tell there parents no or they say hate full stuff becouse nothing is going to happen. Kids should have a fear a fear that if they do wrong they will get a punishment. time outs are not much, you should have differnt levels of punishment and if timout will not work its time for phase 2.
a quick story: i was at a mall and a mom told her 7 to 8 year old boy to come here and he told her no, she starts to plead with him "i will buy you a toy car" he said no and he did what he wanted to do.
If that was me and i told my mom no she would tell me one more time. and if i dident do it my mom would go get a wooden spoon and tan my hide and next time she would ask me to come over i would do it very fast.