A few years ago I was diagnosed with bi-polar disorder. I have always had a difficult commiting to one person so I spoke with my psychiatrist regarding this on my last visit. He said that many people with my illness cycle through various emotions frequently so my tendency to flirt comes from this. I am in a realtionship with someone I love but this tendency to flirt at times when I am manic is really hurting our relationship. What should I do?
2006-06-07 04:06:48 · 24 answers · asked by question man 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Find a bipolar mate and just hope that you don't kill each other.
2006-06-07 04:09:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all what does "flirting" mean? Are you just being friendly or is it going further with exchanging phone numbers and dates? If you are just being friendly then there is nothing wrong with that, but if you are going further than that then it's not right. Don't use your illness as an excuse to do wrong.
Does she know the extent of your flirting? Are you intimate with the people you flirt with? Consider her feelings. You may look up one day and she may be gone. A woman will tolerate so much then when she's feed up, she's gone and maybe for good.
2006-06-07 11:33:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still having manic spells, then you need a different medication. I have an aunt who is bipolar. There is nothing I can do for her because she refuses to get help. She was on medicine for awhile but it was the wrong one it made her have more manic spells so she stopped taking it & now refuses to get on anything else because she is afraid it will make her the same as the other medicine. When you truly love someone you can be open & honest about it. Don't hide behind your illness.
2006-06-07 11:17:37 · answer #3 · answered by ~Sheila~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Medication is not the only answer; you have to recognize your behaviors & control them. You should also bring your partner w/ you to the psychiatrist to have it explained to them. Then, simply tell your partner that if your are doing something that is upsetting to them to let you know discretely.
As far as it being an "action" not an "emotion"; clearly people do not realize that your disorder can cause erratic BEHAVIORS. I doubt that your psychiatrist would encourage a "cop out". Your behavior may be difficult to control, but not impossible, just do your best to take an active roll in correcting them.
2006-06-07 11:11:34 · answer #4 · answered by pr1ncezz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry I don't buy the flirt excuse. You may be socially flirtatious and that doesn't mean it's a bad thing. Plus there is nothing wrong with flirting unless you go further, then it isn't Bi-Polar, it's just that you haven't met the right person.
2006-06-07 11:10:40 · answer #5 · answered by DELETED ACCOUNT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a cop out, I agree you have a lot of emotions at one time and pehaps different ones and different times however flirting is an action, not an emotion. You choose to flirt, in other words you cause the problem! Dont use an illness millions of people have to get out of it! Thats bullsh/i/t!!!
2006-06-07 11:11:15 · answer #6 · answered by face9202004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fortunatly for you, you have to choice to change. I know Bi-Polar is some geat new way for people to have an excuse to do things or not do things, but reality is you can control your own actions. Just stop flirting. Be honest to your self and your partner.
2006-06-07 11:10:42 · answer #7 · answered by lissa7903 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have identified your own flaw....that's the first step to recovery. When you have the urge to flirt again....stop and think of how YOU will feel when your partner does the same thing...Do to others what you want to be done to yourself. Make a conscious decision and stop what you are doing. You are in charge of your own life! Good luck!
2006-06-07 11:10:38 · answer #8 · answered by Angelia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep working with your therapist. It may be also helpful to have your partner come to one of your sessions with the therapist's permission.
You have recognized a problem, now you need to work on strategies to solve it. Bringing your partner to a session will allow you to open up yourself and be vulnerable to them. This is a step toward a trusting relationship.
Good luck.
2006-06-07 11:14:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your significant other to go to a doctor's appointment with you so that he'll better understand your disorder. Understanding will help your relationship alot!
2006-06-07 11:11:59 · answer #10 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to the person your with and explain whats going on make sure you reassure the person you are with that you love him or her and although you flirt with some one else that their the one you want to be with and if they cant except that then i don't know what to say
2006-06-07 11:17:03 · answer #11 · answered by hmmm..... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋