Zenobia is my youngest baby (19months). She's fiesty and full of attitude. Sensitive may I add. When I come home from work, I spread my arms for her to come give me a hug, and she looks away and says "No!". So I go up to her, gently grab her arm and she tries to run from me and ends up falling and b/c of that, she cries, as if I did it. Ha!
All throughout the day, she's very whiny if she falls, doesn't get her toy right away, etc. I think it also stems from her oldest sister who takes things from her constantly, then my youngest just sits and watches her sister play with it.
My thing is, why is she so upset at mommy? I know, you guys think she isn't but she really IS. Bedtime she won't let me cuddle her and comfort her. She does the same to others too.
Can anyone help my Z and me?
e-mails are welcome!
2006-06-07 03:47:11 · 5 answers · asked by fiestygirl 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Just realized this would make a great children's book called , "What's wrong with Zenobia?"
2006-06-07 03:47:51 · update #1
It sounds like she may be feeling jealous of her older sister! I know this may sound funny but if she sees her sister get what ever she wants (such as toys she was playing with) she assumes that you are allowing this to happen and because of that she is pushing you away so to speak. You need to really try to be there and hold her, comfort her, especially in the evenings when she goes to bed. If she continues to push you away, she will grow up missing one of the most important things there is, a Mother's love and closeness to her child. All the things she is doing with the whining and pushing you away are a cry for more attention. Maybe you feel you are giving her enough but she feels like she is in competition with her big sister! It's not easy but you will have to find a balance between the two. Possibly do some things just with Zenobia, just the two of you. Even if only for a few minutes each day. It could help to bring her closer to you!
I wish you luck! Also, Zenobia is a beautiful name!
2006-06-08 04:31:31 · answer #1 · answered by Ekimo 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the name
2006-06-07 04:43:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children go through different phases, it might have a lot to do with her older sisiter, but it could be an attention thing. You mentioned that she just sits and watches her sister play with the toys that she has taken from her. Dont you punish her sister and take the toys back? Do you make time to do something special with each of your daughters seperately. This is an easy thing for children to develop complexes over. If she feels like she is not being treated fairly she will resent you. Best of luck hon.
2006-06-07 03:55:27 · answer #3 · answered by greeneyedprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you just start working? if you did then she is probably upset since you are gone a lot, if you have always worked then that probably isn't it! or at that age most of them are trying to gain independence and are starting to get quite a personality but I don't think anything is that wrong with her, they are funny at that age but don't worry she will always need her mommy but maybe not as much as you would like right now. Besides you should be glad she is not real attached because that will be easier on you both in the long run, you need to let her have her independence, most parents just want keep their kids babies and pick them up too much and don't let them have any independence, but those parents that are like that are making it hard on their kids to become their own person and that is not fair to the child!!!
2006-06-07 04:12:19 · answer #4 · answered by Cajirenee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like shes trying to be more independent talk to her doctor about it
2006-06-07 03:54:53 · answer #5 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋