My BF & I are having probs. He asked me while he was at work to if needed discipline is daughter if needed. Well I had to. Now he is upset about it & didn't like "seeing that side of me". So now he is not sure how he feels. He mentioned he was thinking about his deceased wife. I feel he is comparing her to me. He keeps mentioning he wants a normal life. My question is should I continue this relationship? I feel he has already made that decision by distancing himself & what not. But should I try to save it? Please help. I do have feelings for him.
2006-06-07 02:40:01 · 8 answers · asked by chellebeth75 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well baby it's only one thing you can do stay there and let the little girl run over you and live the rest of your life in total misery or you can move on and let him think about it cause regardless if it's your kid or not the fact still remains that, That still is a child and they all need discipline at times. So if he want somebody to just have his daughter SH!! on every now and then tell him find a baby sitter
2006-06-07 04:55:49 · answer #1 · answered by let_it_xhale 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think that you should talk to him and tell him how you feel. Explain to him that you really have feelings for him but you also feel like maybe he is comparing you to his deceased wife. I understand how he can prob. get down sometimes about the whole situation but you want to help him and he needs to know that you understand but also that you have feelings to and he cannot keep pushing you away or he will loose two people that he loves and doesn't have to. His deceased wife would want to see him happy. And you were just trying to help with his daughter like he asked you to. So just sit down and work this out and if he cannot change then you know what you have to do. But it is at lease worth a try if you really do have feelings for him.
2006-06-07 03:18:11 · answer #2 · answered by Nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is constantly comparing, it is only natural... Unfortunately...
You need to look at the situation... And decide if you want to continue with all these problems you are having...
Maybe you should have a break to assess the situation and see what happens...
2006-06-07 02:48:43 · answer #3 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems he ain't got over his ex-wife and he wants you to change and be like her. If you are willing to change and really love him save it but if you don't wanna change then move on.
2006-06-07 02:48:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will you ever be able to fill her shoes in his eyes..he does not sound like he is ready for a relationship at this time.
2006-06-07 02:58:17 · answer #5 · answered by mick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
English is not your first language is it? Something got lost in the translation. Sorry, I couldn't be of help this time.
2006-06-07 02:48:06 · answer #6 · answered by Jimmythekid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can you imagine yourself being married to him and living with him for the rest of time, then stay. if you do like what that might turn out, go find someone else. its up to you and how you feel.
2006-06-07 02:45:02 · answer #7 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what is in your heart.
2006-06-07 05:03:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋