stay being great friends with the person you love or pursue the relationship over time and risk it falling apart? do you think it's possible to maintain the friendship? would you take the risk?
2006-06-07 02:20:20 · 23 answers · asked by Jan 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, I think that being friends first should be the base to any relationship. If you were to persue the relationship over time with said person and it did, as you say, fall apart, then you still have that basic foundation of friendship to fall back on. A lot of people dont even have that. When they break they destroy one another, I think if you have a solid foundation of friendship then you will be close enough to know whats going on far in advance of anything getting really messy... But there are no guarantees in life, I know that much, but I also know that once you have a good friend you can never erase them or replace them. they are part of you for life!!
2006-06-07 10:09:46 · answer #1 · answered by Agony Uncle 3 · 12⤊ 1⤋
There is probably more to the story than meets the eye, but in a practical, been around the block type of advise- here goes: The good times are great either way but relationships are a lot of hard work. I mean hard! It is tough to meet halfway, see eye-to-eye and work on problems when they arise (and they always do). It is easier if you and your partner are friends, it helps in the way you communicate with each other and in the way you work out problems. So it is always best to be friends first and foremost and then a more intimate relationship. Now trying to decide which route to go is tough, let me just say I have a lot of friends but once they became more there was no going back! So what’s the rush? Be loving, supporting friends and see where it goes. It seems like you already know it would fall apart if you start a relationship. Good Luck and in the end follow your heart because it most assuredly will drag you in the dirt before it brings you right where you want to be…
2006-06-07 14:19:38 · answer #2 · answered by go_to_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from experience, i would say take the risk for a relationship. i knew my boyfriend as a friend for a long time (6 yrs) and for 4 yrs now, we have officially been together. its great because we have a great friendship as a foundation but things have been rough lately and i dunno if we will end up together. i dont think that it would be possible to maintain the friendship after the breakup, it would be too hard (at least for me it would)
2006-06-07 09:24:11 · answer #3 · answered by BeAuTiFuL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In life the only guarantee is death and if you risk nothing you will gain nothing. So if you have a chance at love grab it with both arms, and what better person to be in love with than an actual friend ...
2006-06-07 09:26:53 · answer #4 · answered by dynobrit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taking the risk is often the better option that way they'll be no regrets if it goes bad but if the relationship is not worth it, why waste time cos life is too short.
2006-06-07 09:26:24 · answer #5 · answered by todd w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the risk, true love is very rare. You only get one chance at life so you might as well have some fun and see what happens.
2006-06-07 09:23:54 · answer #6 · answered by paul m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there and I took the risk. It didn't work out but I think we are even closer now than we were before.
2006-06-07 09:32:35 · answer #7 · answered by onegray79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
based on the strength of our friendship , if it is stronge enough then i`ll take the risk , but i beleive in something , friendship can be upgraded to love , but love could not be ever downloaded to friendship :)
wish u good luck
2006-06-07 09:25:35 · answer #8 · answered by EDWARD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I would take the risk, however if I want to stay friends with him I do that.
Decide what you want, you can always remain friends afterwards I think if you break!
Karl
http://www.freewebs.com/smithkarl/journals.htm
2006-06-07 10:13:36 · answer #9 · answered by karlsltn2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is about taking risks...go for it!
2006-06-07 09:39:56 · answer #10 · answered by briluve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋