Do you take kids (6 yrs old) to see dad in jail theyre begging to see him but you dont want them to see jail?

Answer 1

i wouldn't but that's your choice

Answer 2

wow, tough call.

If I were in your shoes I would consider this: Is dad going to get out of jail in a short period of time (like within a couple of years). If he is then I think keeping up a relationship between father and child would be important. Also, was the father really close to the child before being incarcerated. (Was the child old enough to remember dad prior to being jailed) If the child has a strong recollection of dad, had a positive relationship with dad, and will see dad soon when dad gets out ......then I think you should take the child(ren) . I would suggest doing some "pre-teaching" with the kids to explain "This is what jail will look like:______, daddy won't be able to hug or touch you..." that kind of thing so they know what to expect. Children can handle things better if they know whats coming next.

The flip side is: If daddy was jailed for a crime against children (child abuse or something else awful like that) then I would never take my kids around. Also, if he is going to be in jail forever I'd say forget it also.

Good luck! I'm sure you are a great mom!

Answer 3

Honestly, that is up to you. If I were in that situation, I would explain the the child where the father was, why Dad is in there and explain that jail is not a fun place to be. Some children need a harsh dose of reality before it sinks in. Yes, I would take them to see their father. But, that would also depend on your relationship with the father.

It's easy to put someone on a pedestal if the admirer never gets to see the bad stuff.

Answer 4

This is definitely YOUR call! If you think that a 6 year old is capable of dealing with the jail surroundings and seeing their dad there, then take them. You'll definitely know for sure if it was a good idea AFTER you take them. If it doesn't go well, definitely do not take the kids again.

Answer 5

I regularly visit at a maximum security State Prison and can assure you that the visiting area is VERY safe, the inmates are all too involved in their own visits to be bothering with anyone else, the rules are well enforced and there are correctional officers nearby at all times (in the room, usually 3, sometimes 4)...and keep in mind that the guys who have disciplinary problems inside don't get regular visits, so there won't be people in the room who have been violent inside the prison. "Contact Visits", the kind where you get to be in the same room and sit together, are a privilege and most inmates won't do anything to risk losing that privilege.
I've seen little ones in the room and they seem to be having a pretty good time.
If I were in your shoes, I'd take them once and see how it goes, if it goes well, continue, if it upsets them, then wait until she's older and just keep them in touch through letters.
Trust me, they'll be furious with you later if they learn that you could have kept their father in their life and did not, and there is nothing unsafe about the visiting areas...they are a lot like a badly decorated cafeteria, bland but not at all menacing.

Answer 6

You should allow them to see who is their daddy. A 6 years old is too young to understand "jail." You don't have to explain to your kids that their father is in jail or the reason he is in jail. You only have to let them see their father and take them home afterwards. If your kids ask you why their father is not living with them or why he is there, you just tell them that you two are just not living together. Just plain simple, two adults don't have to live together if they don't want to.

Answer 7

Of course I would take them. Seeing a jail will not hurt them as much as not seeing their father.

Answer 8

You might want to explain very causiously to the young ones on where daddy is. Tell your children that no matter what happens he is still your daddy. If you dont want them seeing the jail you might want to suggest writing daddy a letter and send it to him in jail without the kids seeing the address on where he is.

Answer 9

first of all, how many years is their father going to stay in jail?
if it is short time like 4 or 5 years just tell them that ur dad is in a work trip or business trip or something, its not good for them to see theit father in jail.

Answer 10

i would you should not punish a kid for what there dad did they might start to act out and you will give them a life long message and show them what jail is like they will find out one why or the other

Answer 11

I wouldn't either. Tell him to write a letter or make a card for father's Day and send it to jail. Ask his dad to write back and they can have a relationship that way.