I have a niece that decided about 2 years ago that she is lesbian (and I have nothing against this) but she has a lover that is in the Army and now she is going to give up her parental rights to her 11 year old son so that her lover can get the military benefits of having a kid. To top this all off, his grandparents raised him for the majority of his life and now she will no longer even let them see or talk to him. I personally think that if she is willing to give up her rights, the grandparents should be the ones that file for the adoption but they are afraid that it will hurt their grandson. Would you push the grandparents into fighting for custody knowing that if anything ever happened in the relationship between my niece and her lover that their grandson could be permenantly removed from the family? My sister is the grandparent and they were informed by lawyer yesterday that there really isn't any grandparents rights and the they would have an excellent chance for custody.
2006-06-07 01:31:49 · 7 answers · asked by nonohank 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Just an FYI, my niece basically did not raise her son for the first 9 years of his life anyway, the grandparents did. Only for the past 2 years has she taken an interest in his life. And this is my family, my flesh and blood here, I feel that it is my business.
2006-06-07 02:50:13 · update #1
What is wrong with people today? Stay out of it? Are you nuts? If my sibling was trying to give away my niece or nephew I would fight tooth and nail to keep them in the family. To a child, family is (or should be) the most important thing to them. Tell the grandparents to go for it and not look back. If there daughter doesn't like it, to bad; she's hurting them by trying to give away their grandson.
2006-06-07 02:45:01 · answer #1 · answered by racing_jrfan 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
One just can't give up rights to someone else. The person must legally adopt the child. And this is a long process. It won't happen overnight. How does the child feel on this subject? An 11 year old will have some input on all this.
2006-06-12 12:08:16 · answer #2 · answered by Molly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first one, this is the mothers' decision( no matter how right/wrong it is). As an adult who grew up in the 'system' I can tell you that if any blood relatives come forward they are considered before anyone else and where is the biological father of the 11 year old? The child is also almost old enough to tell the courts himself where he wants to live.
2006-06-07 09:17:21 · answer #3 · answered by maharet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with the grandparents, the Mom is just being selfish. If she gives up her rights, then all ties should be severed.
2006-06-07 08:36:05 · answer #4 · answered by foodlover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was the grandparents. I'd hire an Attorney, which they should have done years ago if they had him that long.
Good Luck!
2006-06-07 16:00:53 · answer #5 · answered by seeking2adopt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mind my own business
and
you should do the same thing, mind your own business
2006-06-07 08:35:15 · answer #6 · answered by Pobept 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
let HER make that decision you can't do sh** it's her child
2006-06-07 09:18:18 · answer #7 · answered by lifeoftoby 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋