2006-06-07 01:17:24 · 14 answers · asked by ivette 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
It's not for you to do anything. Instead, it's up to him.
If he really feels something for you he'll be a man and stand up to his family. If he doesn't, move on.
2006-06-07 01:19:59 · answer #1 · answered by J.D. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he loves them, they are his family. I would address the issue with him (rationally, don't be emotional). Tell him how this makes you feel and ask him why he thinks they do not like you and what you can do to improve the situation. Whatever his response, if you really see a future in this relationship you are going to have to learn how to get along with them. This doesn't mean that you need to be a doormat but you should try to make the first step in establishing a good relationship. Maybe they have some hangups or cultural norms that are a little different than what you are used to. Try to see how they interact with each other and use that as a basis (i.e. if they are very formal don't run up to them give them a big hug, kick off your shoes and put them up on the coffee table). The two keys to fixing this problem are communication (both between you and your boyfriend and you and his family) and mutual respect. Good luck.
2006-06-07 01:24:30 · answer #2 · answered by Natasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask to have a meeting with his family and try to get to the root of the problem. Find out exactly why they are so negative towards you.
If you are both very young, that could be part of the reason. Parents don't like to see their teens getting very serious at such a young age and some will date someone their parents are negative towards just to be rebellious
If you are both older, and he is serious about your relationship, he should want to know why his famiy disapproves.
Either way, if his family continues to be negative, you need to decide if this relationship can stand amongst the animosity. He will always be torn between the love of his family and his love for you, and "blood is thicker than water".
Sometimes it is better to walk away and avoid future heartache.
2006-06-07 01:30:12 · answer #3 · answered by pipi08_2000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you marry him you will still have to put up with his family and your children may hear these negative remarks. You won't be able to tolerate them and your husband will be torn between you and them. You have to sort it out now with all of them before the relationship can continue. Respond to the negative comments with "Why do you have these negative feelings toward me and what can I do to improve this situation." It is not to early to get relationship councilling before marriage...good luck
2006-06-07 01:24:48 · answer #4 · answered by toe poe gee gee oh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to have a talk with your boyfriend. Let him settle the problem. And if he just lets things go and doesn't defend you, then maybe you need to leave him and be with someone who will stand up for you. If you love someone you would do anything for them. And if he loves you then he should do something for you also.
2006-06-07 01:26:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off how old are you both, is this a first love for you or for him. Find out why they say negative things about you and talk them out.
2006-06-07 01:20:59 · answer #6 · answered by twoquiltertwo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the negative things aren't true, or valid concerns... then try to disregard them, since it doesn't matter what people think.. just that you and your Boyfriend are happy.
Perhaps the criticisms are correct, and you have a flaw, which concerns the future welfare of their son, in which case you can confront them, and tell them that you don't appreciate their input, since you're a grown woman, and you'll change when you damn ready.
2006-06-07 01:23:43 · answer #7 · answered by Swampy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never want to stand between a romantic partner and their family. Always remain respectful, it shows that you are the better person. BUT!!!! It is his responsibility to stand up and speak on your behalf. Whether he loves them is not a question, but if they REALLY love him wouldn't they respect the person HE LOVES!!!! He has to man up and make this right...
2006-06-07 01:22:55 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should maintain your self-respect first bcoz it is very imp
if your boyfriend is lovingu he should trust u and than love
u bcoz a relationship without trust is useless i am not saying
that he should fight with his parents but he should make them understand and clear the problem.
GOOD LUCK
2006-06-07 01:27:13 · answer #9 · answered by swatiailsinghani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is what HE should do. He can still love his family, but he needs to rise to your defense to state that he will not tolerate snotty, snide comments about you.
2006-06-07 01:20:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋