I really like this guy but dnt know if i should let him kno. He one told me he loved me but later said he wasnt ready for a relationship when i refused to have sex with him.
I dnt want to humiliate myself though. What should i do?
2006-06-07 01:15:25 · 14 answers · asked by Incredible! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if he loved you and all he wanted was to sleep with you; do you not see that he is all about getting in between your legs, he wants sex but no relationship? he is trying to play on your intelligence, your going back to tell him you like him will make him feel that you are ready to sleep with him, and if he asks again and you refuse, he is going to make you feel like somebody that is worth his time.
What i feel you should do is make him see you like him but that you are not just ready to get down to roughening the sheets, and if he thinks you are being childish, then you would have known that he is not the one for you.remember the decision to have sex with anyone is your sole decision, you should not let yourself be manipulated into doing it.:-)
2006-06-07 01:26:42 · answer #1 · answered by kul 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
See first ask ur self what u want from him a good relationship
for whole life or just time pass for few years and than start looking for someone else
if u willing to have times pass than its abt u to decide that u need him for sexual pleasure or just wana have normal fun
and if u want long term relationship than unless u dont know him very well never go with him inbed first know what his intensions are abt u than take any decision if he is just back of u for sex than it ur character to decide and if he likes ur attitude and the way u handle things than let him know that u want sex after marriage if he stills with u than have it one night before ur marriage
it will feel him gr8
coz if u had sex with him now and get to plan for marriage after his interest in u will be start getting vanished
so better be careful
still wishes u best of luck for ur future
2006-06-07 01:41:04 · answer #2 · answered by snake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already have your answer. He just wanted sex without any commitment at all. You are obviously a decent genuine girl, and that makes it very difficult for you to understand why anybody would treat you any differently. But there are loads of them out there that really are not worth your attention. Keep looking, and you will find somebody as decent and honest as yourself - good luck. PS, if you are wondering whether things would have been different if you had given in and slept with him, well, he probably would have dumped you straight after, so you have kept your dignity
2006-06-07 01:35:26 · answer #3 · answered by melnellie2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on! He only said he loves you because he wants to have sex with you, he's not worth your time. Good relationships grow out of mutual friendship and respect. Could you ever be best friends with someone who thought you were worthless enough to be used just for sex?
Find yourself a nice chap who will treat you like a lady and not pressure you into anything.
2006-06-07 02:40:17 · answer #4 · answered by Fluorescent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he said he loved you but then said he didn't want a relationship when you refused sex?
hmmmmm
#1-good for you for saying no
#2-sorry, but i think 'i love you' was a way to get you into bed
i don't think i would open up to this guy too much. he doesn't sound very trustworthy. you only have to see how he treats you and acts around you to really know how he feels about you. only when you get good vibes from him should you tell him that you like him.
if someone loves you, they want to be with you (in a relationship)
2006-06-07 01:50:23 · answer #5 · answered by Jan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, he said he loved you and then took it back because you wouldn't put out? I wouldn't tell this guy that. He is just going for sex right now. Get to know him better and see if you still feel that way in a month.
2006-06-07 01:22:12 · answer #6 · answered by Gregie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him. If he does the same thing and says he's not ready for a relationship after you refuse to sleep with him then he's only after one thing and dump him.
2006-06-07 01:28:55 · answer #7 · answered by Yokihana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you like him then you should go and tell him your feelings. Life is too short to play ping pong. dont waste time by just keeing ur feeling with ur heart....its has no relevance if he doent know ur feelings. But this doent mean that you need to sleep with him to express ur feelings. Never do anything for which your heart is not ready.
2006-06-07 01:23:18 · answer #8 · answered by vatsayan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him n that way he knows n you find out how he feels all at the same time. no reason y u can't have a very friendly relationship with no strings.
2006-06-07 01:21:34 · answer #9 · answered by one with no name 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel, if he doesnt feel the same way just accept it and move on to find someone you really care about
2006-06-07 01:30:46 · answer #10 · answered by lizarddd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋